Never been in love

[mrshetfield]

I have always suffered from extremely low self esteem so at the age of 17 when a good looking bloke took an interest in me I snapped it up and we ended up living together and having 2 children but I was never in love with him, I'm a single mum now and I had a boyfriend for a year and again I wasnt in love with him, didnt love him at all.

My confidence is now at an all time high and i'm no longer willing to accept 'anyone' but I'm wondering, will I ever fall in love and have that fairy tale wedding etc? Do people do that in real life? single mums?

you will fall in love one day just because you havent yet doesnt mean you wont and yes it even happens to single mums

Don't know the answer, but wanted to wish you all the best! I am very sympathetic to your quest.

'will I ever fall in love and have that fairy tale wedding etc? Do people do that in real life? single mums? '

I think the Western media has so much to answer for in terms of selling this idea that you need XY and Z to be happy or complete, and the concept of 'fall' in love.

It's a conscious decision, IMO.

I can promise you that selling out your own power and control over your feelings and emotions in life is a certain cause of grief.

The second I grew to reject these delusions was the second my life became far happier.

i don't think there's such a thing as a soul mate or mr. right. i think as you get older and have more relationships you know what you're looking for and what you're not prepared to put up with. and at some point you'll meet someone with whom you feel you could live the rest of your life with.

fall in love? fairy tale wedding? hmmm first you gotta work out what kind of bloke you want! so ultimately it's all up to you!

I agree completely, warthog.