How long to wait for sex?

[solitudehappiness]

Have just started dating, and was wondering how long is acceptable to wait before consummating the relationship? Its been a while since I dated.

As long as you both like. Honestly.

As long as you want to.

First date? That's OK.

Third date? That's OK.

Six months? That's OK.

When you both want to.

As long as it's something you both want & you are both comfortable with - go for it :)

There's no such thing as 'acceptable'

When you both want to!

Don't men have less respect for women if they sleep with them too soon though?

Some men do, but if you are a woman who is happy to sleep with someone on a first date if the mood takes you then you are probably also a woman who doesn't want to date the sort of man who will sleep with a woman on a first date but then lose respect for her for doing the same thing he has just done.

Even if you are a woman who generally prefers to wait 6 months or until marriage you may not want to go out with a hypocrite.

If any man feels that way, he's not the man you want to be seeing! It's so hypocritical. It's like offering someone a bite of your sandwich then calling them greedy and rude if they take you up on it. Worst comparison ever. You know what I mean

I slept with DP after a week. 7 years later he still hasn't lost any respect for me over it, that I know of After all, he slept with me, too.

Hilly

I always say that men are like carpets- lay them properly the first time, and you can walk on them for life.

I don't really say that, but it's funny

As already said; whenever you want!

Does a man lose respect for a woman who sleeps with a man on a first date? Maybe, but given that he has also slept with someone (and assuming it hasn't shattered his own self respect) he is obviously lost somewhere in gone decades, and not the right sort of man for that woman.
I like to sleep with someone fairly promptly (or, rather, I don't like to "wait"). If they p*ss off after, all the better for it. Sexists with double standards need not apply.

Do what feels right.

If they do have less respect then they're not worth continuing in a relationship with.

Whenever you want to is ok.

Yes, and of course it's double standards.

My parents were married 33 years and slept together first date (don't ask how I know this-my dad doesn't know the meaning of TMI)

As others have said, that would make the guy a hypocritical tosspot.

I slept with DH on our first date. We got married three and a half years later. I know (because he has told me) that he never felt complacent about our relationship.

I think you just need to pay attention to gut instinct really.

Do you want to date a guy who holds you up to different standards of behaviour to himself? If he has sex with you then he should respect you exactly as much as he respects himself, otherwise he's a total dickhead.

I fucked my XH the first time we spent time together. He didn't lose respect for me over it! In fact have fucked every boyfriend I've ever had (apart from the first one) within 12 hours.

Together almost 12 years
Married almost 6 years
Expecting first child
DTD 48 hours after meeting.

He was/is gorgeous. What was the point in waiting?

I would hope he still respects me!

Anyone who's lucky enough to have sex with a woman and then thinks less of her for it is not someone who deserves a relationship.

Thanks everyone for your responses. Its given me an idea of how others think and what is the norm. And, I've learnt that its very much an individual thing, and what you both decide as a couple too. :)

I've slept with people on the first date and had relationships lasting years. I've slept with people on the first date and never seen/heard from them again.

One time I 'held back' untill 6 or so dates in. The guy was very attentive and always wanting to see and talk to me before then. As soon as we DTD he buggered off and went n/c.

I don't think it really matters when you DTD. If he's a creep he will wait til he gets what he wants to show his true colours. If he's the right guy it doesn't matter when it happens.

TBH I wish I had just slept with him on the first date, had him fuck off then and not have wasted me time/emotions on the loser.

6 hours and 32 minutes.

its only sex....

do it when you are both ready