My do wants space and doesn't know what he wants

[Blinkyb]

We have only been together a yer and a half and he said he feels trapped. He then told me all the things that were bothering him and how crap a person I was :( I cried and then he left to go to his mums. Is this his way of trying to break up with me. It's very hurtful and I can't stop crying. He was my world an now he just decides that he isn't sure about us. I'm am gutted and all alone while he gets to go and have support. Has anyone else had experience of this.

Yeah he told me before my parents knew. I certainly won't beg him, not a chance

But if you wait for him to go back or decide what to do, you are still yielding power to him, as you are leaving a door open for him.
I'd end it for good myself, regardless of what he says.

I just can't bring myself to end it as I want to try and work stuff out. It's not major problems, well not in my eyes. I totally heart broken.

Saying your partner is crap is pretty major, don't you think? If he loved you he wouldn't think it, let alone say it.

I can understand him feeling trapped, particularly if he's living with you and your family when that's not what he wants - yes, it's horrible for you, but I can understand where he's coming from there.

HOWEVER, to then say that you are a crap person and leave you crying while he goes off for tea and sympathy with his mum is really horrible - I couldn't forgive that.

I can see a life long story of him leaving, you working out at things, him leaving and you working out until you don't recognise yourself anymore.

I hope you're feeling better this morning as a single woman. Well more positive anyway. It really is better to be single than in a crap relationship with a man who has settled for you.

I echo ftmsoon. You are worth more than he is giving you. You deserve someone who wants you, all of you. Not someone who thinks of you as a 'backup plan'.

I told him today he can't keep coming back an forth and he still doesn't know what he wants. I kicked him out and and feel very alone. Just trying to get through each day. I said I'm sorry you didn't give us a chance- he said you didn't give me time - I said but I thought you had made your decision and he shook his head. Well I made it for him

He had enough time to do this: He then told me all the things that were bothering him and how crap a person I was. He had enough time to make a decision. Bollocks to him.

Good for you

Don't you dare be any blokes fallback position

You should be no.1, no questions asked

You are "crap" I don't think so.

You'd have felt more alone with someone you weren't sure wanted to be there.

You did the right thing for you.