As a background, I have been separated and divorced for 9 years but haven't had a relationship in that time. It took 5 years before I felt I would be ready again. I joined a singles club a few years ago but haven't met anyone. I have a great time with the people in the club, meeting most weeks. I am very happy being single but I am open to a relationship if one should happen.
In February one of the guys let it be known he was interested in me. He is about 10 years older than me. I felt he was OK but didn't know him well. In the last few months I have met him a few times at the club's social events and started to get to know him. The last few weeks we have been getting closer (dancing all night together) and a few pecks on the lips. He does have close relationship with this one women who says she likes him but doesn't fancy him.
On Friday night he gave me his number and I text him so he had mine. He asked me to a social event that several other club members were going to last night. It was some distance from me but I went along. I got the distinct feeling he was no longer interested. He spent more time cooing over this other lady. Probably a case of now the chase is finished he isn't sure. At the end of the evening he made no further plans with me.
I am just not interested in someone who is not into me. I really don't want him to start any contact.
Should I send a quick text just saying that it isn't going to work out and that we are both after different things or should I just leave it and let him know only if he texts me later?