my thread was zapped at my request - someone messaged me concerned that i had revealed just a wee bit too much RL info to identify me.
im a goof and i do that.
anyway. have had proper heart to heart with hubby tonight.
all is well.
we managed a proper, adult conversation with no arguing and no recriminations.....
i got my point across very well.
he is gong to try very hard to support me more.
he has had words with dd after she moaned at him earlier - he says she is not just embarrassed by me.....its us. me and him. our house. our pets. our cars. he did some straight talking to her as she even annoyed him today....(no mean feat!) and we are just wholly embarrassing because all her friends have money, big houses, and new cars.
diddums eh.....what a hard life!
dh was genuinely shocked that i felt so unloved and unappreciated. we talked about a lot of my resentments - old and new.
we are good. thank you to everyone for sage advice and wise words.
i didnt paint him in a great light but there are always two sides to every story....he gave me his side tonight too.
23 years marriage and 2 kids is a lot to throw away. we deserve a chance to sort it. its not all that bad but its going awry and now he knows.
thanks to all who helped me over 4 pages....