Friday nights can be a tad lonely it seems

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Just come out of an ea relationship. I have a young baby. Just getting past the omg ive escaped phase to the wow I'm really on my own and this is what a weekend is now. Just moaning really. Anyone else having a dull weekend?

Yeah I has time like that I used to work of an evening when mine were in bed ( worked from h

Yep....

Although I'd rather be lonely than how my life was before.

Anyway...you're never bored or lonely with MN! :)

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I need to start on my pile of must read books. Been thinking of joining upto online dating but I'm going to make sure I give it a year before I do to make sure I'm not doing it for wrong reasons.

Yep. Better off single and lonely, than married to an idiot and lonely. Sundays are worse for me than Friday nights

Yeah your are right- nothing like being lonely whilst with someone- worst feeling ever!!

Yep. Dullsville here. I have been a sole carer for my children for the last 11 years. no words of joy from me.. but I have had some lovely experiences and of course the joy of motherhood!

Hope you manage to find a sitter soon frog!?

It was the last thing I wanted to hear ...all that.."its too soon for you to start dating"....I was just desperate at one point to get into another relationship, and crashed about like an idiot in stupid relationships which left me even more hurt. Then one day I realised, that I was OK on my own, lonely at times, but OK with being lonely.

Yeah- im trying to tell myself that too!

Have any of you joined meetup? I did. Went for a meal with 20 others 3 weeks ago. Last Friday saw a band locally with 3 other people, went for a picnic on Sunday with about 30 others, and in August I'm going camping (yes moi - camping????) for 3 nights with 14 people. It really is worth giving it a go. But only when you're ready. Took me ages to pluck up the courage but I'm so glad I did.
Oh and disco boat trip next Friday or is it the Friday after?!

Me too. Funnily enough, it has literally just occurred to me this last day or so that - actually, I'm quite lonely.

Nespresso- good idea. I need to get myself out the poor me hole that is so enticing.

It's so easy to sit in our pjs. I only got out of them to take ds to school, then back to bed, get dressed to pick ds up from school. Pjs were my best friend. Now that I have followed the divorce diet and my old clothes fit me, and the postman is sick of seeing me pulling up my wincyettes, I decided what the hell, I'm doing it. I make sure there is food in the fridge for ds and I'm off out. It's been hard to do but once you're there, it's fun. There are sometimes some jerks in the group, but hey ho, I lived with a jerk for 20 years so I'm pretty well versed on dealing with them! Try it.

I guess a better way of putting it would be, right now I could join meet up, pay a babysitter and go out and meet people, but I get home from work, sort out dd, get a bit tired so going back out on a Friday night is not appealing. At home on my own its easy to think I am missing out, if stuff was different I would be socialising wildly, and its easy to esculate loneliness. But the freedom is worth the lonely points. I Really get tonnes out of offending people on MN ;-)

Who are you offending? Not me anyways.
If you've got young kids I do understand that a full working week then sorting out dd. I more than understand that. My ds is now old enough to sort himself out - he's been telling me that for the past 5 years. BUT he doesn't like me going out.

Try and get a babysitter once every 3 weeks maybe? Parents? Go and have a glass of wine with a friend. It really will help. But it's hard, I know only too too well.

Who are you offending? Not me anyways.
If you've got young kids I do understand that a full working week then sorting out dd. I more than understand that. My ds is now old enough to sort himself out - he's been telling me that for the past 5 years. BUT he doesn't like me going out.

Try and get a babysitter once every 3 weeks maybe? Parents? Go and have a glass of wine with a friend. It really will help. But it's hard, I know only too too well.

Divorce diet !!!ha I like that

Not a regime I'd recommend Looking! However, news travels fast. STBEX hearing that I look ok helps. Makes the b in me look at the OW and think well, you know what middle finger to you, you're welcome to my recycled goods. And H has even told ds that he feels he has gone from the frying pan to the fire. Exact words. I had to remove myself from room, have a cry, then a good laugh. Because we will all get better after this crap. We just sometimes have to remove the wincyettes, pull on the big girl knickers and bloody well get on with it. That is not to say I don't spend every night in tears, ds' school results, his GCSEs, his girlfriends, his driving lessons, all those milestones. No H to share it all with. But then I look at my chest of drawers and know that there are still more big girl knickers in there and I get on with it. It's all so bloody hard. One life, make it your own.

nespresso what's meet up? Tell me more...
I'd like to get out and do stuff, but not really ready to date (all that sitting over a coffee/drink thinking "what am I doing here").

You sound like you're having fun....

meetup.com
It's a website (worldwide) on which you can join groups in your area to do things with. Cinema, meals out, coffee, pub quizzes, walks. You name it, it's there. No dating (yuk not ready for that!). But it gets you out of your pjs and out of the house!

I've just joined a couple of my local groups on your recommendation nespresso

I actually don't mind a Friday night in....DVD, wine, choc!!

Good for you Louby, hope you get to have some fun.