over reacting or rightly dubious

[beccacol]

Hi there, New here, just hoping for some opinions. Had my first child 8 months ago and unsure if it's the hormones still. Me and the other half haven't been getting on well lately, arguing to often. He has taken a week of work and I have been out The house with our daughter on numerous occasions leaving him at home. I came home Wednesday to him asking me if I had lost a charm from my bracelet, I hadn't, he had found one on our bathroom floor. This is our private bathroom that only me and him use, we have a separate wc for visitors. I clean our bathroom frequently and have lived in our home for over a year so cannot imagine it has been dragged out from behind the toilet or anything. I am obviously thinking he has had someone round that he shouldn't have, however I'm finding it strange that he would ask me if the charm is mine. I'm struggling to have the courage to ask him further about this as he can twist every thing I say, and change things around. He is never wrong.. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you x

I think if he had been up to anything suspect he would check with 'her' first I think there's an innocent explanation tbh op

If I were you, I would definitely ask about it but try not to seem like you're accusing him of anything. As for you guys not getting on recently - that's completely normal, a baby changes things and you're still adjusting.

It's a bit weird but surely if he was up to anything he would have just got rid of the charm and not be stupid enough to ask you about it. Perhaps he is just as mystified about it as you.
You could just make a joke of it and ask if the mystery woman who lost her charm has been found or suggest that perhaps you have a ghost. Anything a bit jokey and ridiculous rather than direct confrontation and see how he reacts.

Thank you everyone, very pleased I posted, you've saved a war from breaking out! Thank you xx

Tbh the fact he asked you about it makes me think it's innocent.

Otherwise why just not put it aside in case you (or someone else) ask about it.

I had a slightly similar issue when I found a pair of women's pants (not mine obviously) in a suitcase used by us as a family and for business flights. I confronted him and he said he had no clue and was obviously totally bemused about it. Cut a long story short, turns out when we last visited PIL's, MIL had helpfully washed DS's clothes and packed them - the pants were hers and must have got mixed up in the washing.

Just to point out there can be an innocent and unexpected reason for these things.

Sorry to put a downer on it, but maybe if he is 'up' to something, he did this so as to let you know?

He may be trying to 'tell' you something?

What is all the arguing lately about? It also sounds concerning that you say he twists everything you say/is never wrong etc and that this makes you hesitant to bring your concerns up with him.

Was there a specific reason for him taking the week off work?