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How to start again, when you have already started again?!

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buttonortwo · 27/06/2014 14:49

Separated in 2009, divorced 2013. 2011 met partner however has been on /off and never really official. I've ended the 'relationship' however finding it difficult moving forward, slight depression. I have friends, gym etc work and ds to keep occupied. But I want a special person to share my family life. I'm 38 and would love another child and to experience what didn't happen first time around. I couldn't commit to exp, unreliable and could be abusive at times, once physically and some emotional stuff. I'm still in marital home and cannot imagine bringing another man to same place as exh and exp. I feel like I'm going to be single forever. Split with exp although has happened seems to be ongoing in terms of us both letting go, he wants commitment and I can't.. Anyone been here? I'm sure I can't be alone.. How?

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farendofafart · 27/06/2014 15:00

I don't have experience of this but two things jump out at me from your post:

  1. The ExP needs to become fully ex. From what you sah you are not fully detached in whatever form and you also alluded to his abusive behaviour. Put an end to him right now. It's a waste of your precious time and energy - you have already (quite rightly) made the decision that this relationship is not good enough for you. And it isn't, so move on.
  1. The house seems to be holding you in the past. Is moving a possibility? Maybe even to a different area? It could be a fresh start for you.

Good luck Thanks

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