Bit cross, wwyd about this re friend?

[justjuanmorebeer]

Wasn't sure where to put this. Ages ago a friend had a big clear out of clothes and I took it off her hands to give to another friend who works for a home charity. This was a couple of months back and I donated the clothes.

Last weekend I did a carboot and cleared out lots of my own things and a different friend bought some of my things. First friend has seen the other friend wearing the clothes she bought from me but says that they are the clothes that she gave me to donate to charity!
They certainly are not but she claims that they were hers and is now refusing to speak to me.

I have told her they were my own clothes, but she will not believe me and has told all our mutual friends that I have supposedly done this.

What would you do here? I hate the fact that I have been accused of this but can't seem to convince her that I have not lied.

God, OP. All seems v peculiar and I get that you feel you've wasted too much time worrying about it :( I have tons if clothes but like you I'd recognise everything, I'm sure

Has she got other stuff going on? She hasn't pick in this as a reason to give you a hard time? She's not a Wendy, is she?!

I've just spoke to my Dad too who I did the sale with to ask if he noticed anything odd or had swapped any bags with either my Mum or sis at any point (I had a lot of stuff stored at his house! due to the last time I moved house and all three people have been helping me shift stuff around as I dont drive you see) and he says that is simply not a possibility, there had been no changeover of things between their boots, cars etc.

No she is lovely! There is no way that she would make me feel bad on purpose I dont think. Not exactly sure what a wendy means but I know it isnt a compliment.

Shall I text the other friend to ask for a pic of the stuff she bought from me so I can check it do you think??? I know there were a few items but I cant remember what or exactly how many. Everyone at work currently though

There is no way that she would make me feel bad on purpose I dont think.

Sorry, but it sounds as though that IS what she's doing. Why is she so adamant that you've screwed her over? What kind of friend is so eager to think the worst of others?

A Wendy joins an established friendship and elbows OP out.

I think your Mum and Dad and sister might think you r gone loopy with the evidence gathering, Justone! You know it didn't happen so I guess you need to talk to her? Or like pp said - just maintain it didn't happen, because it didn't happen.

It is making me feel like I am losing my marbles! I am literally trying to think of every single way this might have happened!

No def she is not doing that she is a long term friend and would have no reason at all to do that or make anyone fall out.

Then why is she behaving like this?
Even if some kind time travel machine has switched stuff around and it is hers. She gave it to you anyway.

But that hasn't happened and you have explained so why is she still behaving like a total bitch?
No way would I fall out with a friend over something so trivial as a load of clothes I was throwing out anyway.
Good grief. She needs to grow up.

Send her this thread and tell her to stop being so bloomin' horrible to you.
You've done nothing wrong.
Yes - YOU'VE DONE NOTHING WRONG!!!!!

Yep my Mum just sent me the frozen let it go video as if to say SHUT UP and stop asking weird questions. Really starting to doubt myself now though.

She still has not got back to me though so she isnt being horrible to me, just ignoring!

Good idea to send her the thread then at least she can read it even if she wont reply.

She might really not enjoy being talked about on here

As it stands; she's at work, she's busy, she'll get back to you.

Ok good point. Yes you're right it is my day off so have been able to investigate this but she may not be ignoring she may have just not picked up my messages yet.
I just can't stop thinking about it I have even just gone and unpacked all of my clothes to see if there is anything not of mine mixed in. Now everything is even more of a mess and I am no closer to solving this.

Ignoring people is being horrible.
Do you ignore people? Unless it's to intentionally upset them? I bet you don't.
But give her a bit of time and if she doesn't come round then I'd be re-thinking my friendship.

No but I just realised I thought it was loads later than it actually is. She will still be at work for some time yet. I just want to sort this out...

Asked my sis if she can remember what she gave me and give me a list but of course she can't. She is pregnant and annoyed with me now.

I don't blame you! It's horrible being falsely accused of something. It hurts, and ime brings up all sorts of terrible 'childish' feelings about injustice and it not being bloody fair!

Can you ask your friend who works for the chairty to confirm you gave her a bag of clothes around that time?

Do people really buy their friend's old clothes? Seriously? I'd just give it to them if I didn't want it, not take their money for it.

Well she was buying stuff from my stall as I am raising money to move house hence clearing out.

I know this sounds like a trivial situation but it is making me really stressed out. I am under a lot of stress anyway and I just cannot figure it out.

It was for charity expat You not reading a thread properly again?? Say it isn't so!!

The charity stuff was passed on by my Mum it is her best mate who runs the charity and she claims she did pass it on I have asked her twice now. Unless she is lying of course, but seeing as she knows how much I am worrying about this I think she would have come clean? I know she does look through bags of stuff when me and my sis pass it on to her but dont think these things would have been her size so cant think of any reason she would have held on to them. When I gave her that particular batch I never said they were from a friend as I didnt think it relevant. It was weeks ago and I havent thought/mentioned them again until today.

Um, the OP said a different friend bought her stuff. Really? Took money for that?

Yes, the original bag was for charity,,but the OP then sold clothes to a friend. Hence my question.

I read the thread.

But it's good to know my stalkers are monitoring my posts. I am so flattered. I love my fans who think they are just so clever!