Hello, and thanks to everyone for your previous kind advice on my situation. I thought you'd like an update on the situation if any of you did offer me some link here.
I've kept a typed copy of what's been happening and as I'm exhausted by it all I'm going to copy and paste it below. It's not very personal but I'm taking it with me to the Citizens Advice Bureau tomorrow and I wanted to keep emotive language to a minimal so they can go "check, check, check; ok here's what we can do".
A brief introduction to this situation: Spencer woke me up two mornings in a row (various doors slamming on Monday and Tuesday) so I was very tired when I left the note asking them to leave on Tuesday night and went to bed at around 9.50pm. Spencer later threw this in my face saying that I was making excuses for leaving them a note and not talking face to face, as I'd "had all evening", when my thought process went 'I won't spoil their making/eating and enjoying their dinner - they're eating it now - I'll just hang out my wet laundry and talk to them - oh, they've gone out now' (without saying goodbye so I had no idea until the door slammed; this has become a frequent thing). I stayed in bed as long as possible on Wednesday morning and straightened my hair before leaving my room, at which point they'd left already. Spencer also used this as me "making excuses".
Here it is anyway... be warned it's a saga and a half! NB *names changed.
24th June
"(Evening) Decided to talk to lodgers about them leaving but they went out for the evening before we could have that conversation. Left lodgers a note (copied below) asking them to move out by the first weekend in August.
"Hi guys
I was going to come and talk to you after I finished with my laundry but you're out now, and I wanted you to have as much notice as possible so this is just in case I'm in bed when you get back - *DP and I talked about his living arrangements for his final year and I've asked him to move in, so unfortunately that also means I have to ask you to find somewhere else to live. His contract is up on the 15th August so I can give you until the first weekend (15th is the following Fri); 6ish weeks so hopefully that gives you plenty of time to find a new place. Let me know if I can do anything to help you! (And we can have a chat whenever it's convenient for you.)
*My name x"
[This stuff about contracts is all lies, but anything to avoid actually telling Spencer he's a horrible aggressive bully and I hope all his hair falls out and Sweetie leaves him for someone far more deserving.]
25th June
Arrived home approx. 10.45pm and asked lodgers if they had received the note. Male lodger was VERY aggressive and confrontational. Repeated several times how angry he was and argued with me about how I had approached this in the wrong way. Refused to listen to what I was trying to tell him. When I explained reasons for leaving them a note, having to repeat myself several times in response to his repetition, he said "[I'm angry that you left us a note]... that's my opinion and you're not even listening to it so we should talk tomorrow because I'm too angry now". I was left feeling very shaken by our conversation (also literally shaking because of a strong adrenalin-based reaction to his aggression and his extremely confrontational manner). My hands are still trembling at 11.17pm.
[As I said I wanted to keep emotive language to a minimum so I spared a detailed description of his extremely aggressive body language and demeanour, not to mention the red face, angry-bull-huffing-and-puffing, and extreme crazy-eyes he had going on. He literally told me that he was too full of rage to speak to me. I'll be totally honest and say that I was terrified. My hands were shaking so much that I nearly smashed my glass of water. Sweetie was silent the whole time; I don't know if she's also angry or maybe embarrassed by him?]
26th June
On the advice of my mother I went to the flat immediately after work (between 4.40-5pm) and packed some things to take to my parents' house. I left the lodgers another note, as follows:
"Hey guys
This is to let you know that I won't be back tonight as I'm staying elsewhere. I know you feel disappointed but frankly Spencer your reaction was outrageous and I'm not comfortable being around you alone at the moment. My mum and I will talk to you on Friday after work (as I said, I'm not comfortable with speaking to you alone) and we can try to work something out.
Talk to you tomorrow
*My name"
Hyperventilated and had a possible panic attack in the car as I got back in, before leaving the grounds of *apartment building. Experienced flushing, pounding heart, shaking, and extreme nausea as well as hyperventilating."
I'm at my parents' house now. I called 101 and they've logged my call as well as advised me to call 999 tomorrow the second that I feel intimidated, even when I clarified what him being "aggressive" was, because I don't want to waste police time if all he's doing is being intimidating and nasty, and not actually violent. (I won't be wasting police time, they said.)
Having spent around 4 hours in the last two days looking at advice online, if he does become intimidating I am well within my rights to give them shorter notice and change the locks, which is what I'll threaten to do (not the lock-changing part, as I don't want them knowing that, but short notice) the second he kicks off. They've paid until the end of the month so they can have until 4pm on Sunday if that's how he wants it :)