My best friend of 20 years has suffered a miscarriage (her first and only pregnancy so far). I have PND (four years and counting).
We both desperately need each others' support but I can't gripe to her about how difficult being a mum is for me and she can't bear to be around/talk about children or babies. I send her messages to let her know I'm thinking of her and drop her a line with usual chit-chat and stuff she'd find funny but I don't want to smother her. I had two MCs but am still clueless about how I can best support her.
We're both seeking comfort from other friends (we are both lucky in that respect) but I feel like we're just not close any more.
Can we survive this? Any experiences of best friend break - ups or just drifting apart? Is the concept of a best friend a childish concept even and as adults we have lots of good friends for different things?
I'm garbling now.