Quick details - ex husband violent/abusive/generally a bad lot. Went to refuge. Got divorced 2005 when sons were 1 and 4.
Since he left he has taken me to court umpteen times, called the police, called social services, been in to school saying I am an unfit mother etc etc. I got sole residency in 2007 or 2008. He has been fairly quiet the last couple of years.
He has had contact, occasionally in contact centres (when he was engaged to a heroin addict and refused to agree to contact without her being present and when he tried to commit suicide and told sons all about it). Besides spates in the contact centre, contact has been unsupervised and OK-ish.
He has run up a hefty criminal record since we divorced including fraud against some elderly people in his mother's road (in a small village). He was found guilty of 20 counts of fraud and banned from living in that particular road for 5 years. I did not know about the 5 year ban until tonight.......
.....tonight I learned he has been evicted (10th time in 10 years as he refuses to pay rent) and has moved back in with his mother. It seems the village is up in arms about this and two of the old ladies he took money from have already contacted the police/local housing association to get him moved.
The question I have is - should I suggest that contact with sons it NOT in his mother's house? They go for tea in the week but I am more worried about every other weekend when they stay Saturday - Sunday. He should not be living there and I imagine the atmosphere is dreadful.
Should I say to wait until he has found himself a new flat?