Loves me but is not in love with me!

[Struddles1]

My husband of 3 years, partner for 14 years said he has fallen out of love with me. He said he loves me and cares for me and wants to have sex with me but he thinks of me more like a sister so won't have sex.
We have a 6 month old baby.
I think he is suffering from stress holding down two jobs. He said he hates his life.
He said the rented house and contents is mine and my sons and he currently pays the rent as I am only on smp.
We don't argue, or are horrible to each other, we in fact get on really well.
Our tenancy is due for renewal in November.
I feel so confused and sad but am trying to stay strong for our baby. He said he will still provide for baby and me.
What should I do? Stay till November or try to move out now? I currently don't have saving but do have family that would help.

Struddles it's almost a year since I was delivered that very line. He said there was no one else and no one did appear even after we separated. I do believe something happened somewhere along line but suspect if was an EA .

Anyway we couldn't come back from it and separated in the October. You need to have a serious conversation about what u both want to do for the future

Although this is cliche for an affair it is also the same for ow on the horizon showing an interest I'm flattered and don't know what to do.
You are very mumsy atm which is because you have a small baby and this is why he sees you as a sister.
You need to force his hand, ask who the person is (he's not seeing), what he intends to do about the marriage vows he took and what sort of relationship/ split for parental responsibility does he want.
This should get his attention and maybe then he will talk honestly and open with you.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, OP.

My husband wouldn't go to counselling or see the doctor either; now I know that it was because he knew counselling was pointless as he wanted to be with his new woman, not me (so counselling would have involved some serious lying) and the stress he had was because he felt uncomfortable about having an affair.

He also described our relationship as being like brother and sister, though he told this to his mistress, not to me.

Have you asked him how he feels about the baby?

I think he's freaking out over the responsibility.

I think it's a bit of a weird thing to say that someone who has been your partner, and with whom you have a baby now apparently feels like your sister. Is it just me or is that rather odd?
A poor excuse for anything IMHO

I don't believe that someone who is "freaking out about the responsibility" of a baby would say something like that either

Ask him to leave and give yourself some space without the source of your sadness being around. Right now it's all about him, he's not thinking about you, so you need to prioritise you and your daughter. Take all his current promises of financial support with a pinch of salt and find out what you are entitled to benefit wise and legally. If there is an OW he could become unpleasant if you deviate from the passive role he has assigned you in the aftermath of his 'speech'. RL support is important.