I need to get out don't i?

[Minisoksmakehardwork]

Well. I'm not sure how much longer my marriage is going to last. Apparently I'm screwed in the head for asking dh if there's another woman. But he didn't actually answer the question...

For my own mental health I need to leave don't i?

Sounds like you've made your mind up, with good reason.

What makes you think there is another woman? Has his behaviour changed towards you? Have you found incriminating information? Mistrust - whether tangible or intangible - is a very corrosive thing once it gets into a relationship.

'Screwed in the head' is a typical deflection technique, and it neatly blames you for being suspicious. He can then go on to tell people how 'crazy' you are for wanting to 'break up the family' even when/if it comes to light that he checked out ages ago...

Yeah...my ex didnt actually answer the question. Told me "if you keep asking that I'm gonna do it anyway". Turns out he was.

He's to me before that basically if I wasn't intimate with him, he would go elsewhere.

Found texts and emails on his phone between him and another woman. Even if he's not physically done anything, the intention is clearly there.

Thing is his behaviour is mirroring that of his previous relationship (well, what he told me). When he'd bury himself in a book to avoid his ex, he reckoned she was mad and so on. It's not looking good for me. The only difference is we've got children together and they didn't.

It's amazing how often men who describe their exes as 'mad' (or similar) and take no responsibility for the way a previous relationship finished end up being utter arseholes. When he's chatting to his new girlfriend guess who he's painting as the mad one now?

I really wouldn't stick around to be insulted just because there are children involved. You've got more than enough reason to be dissatisfied