How much does your DPs ex control your life?

[ididntaskforthis]

Hi ladies (and gents!)

I'm posting cause I need support...

Been with DP a year. Both separated, both have young kids.

Me and my ex separated v amicably. He left his w about 18mths ago.

She is hurt and subsequently making things hard (telling the kids she doesn't like it when they're with me, telling him that she doesn't want me meeting "their" friends). I have sympathy for her hurt but also feel angry that it's preventing "us" from moving forward.

Just looking for anyone who's been here... All my friends are single or happily married. I'm feeling lost and lonely!

I've not been in this situation personally but the way I'd see it is that you can't legislate for what someone else thinks, says or does. You can only control your own behaviour. How do you know she tells the children she doesn't like them being with you?... Do they tell you directly? Do they tell their father?

She tells him down the phone when they are in the same room...

You're right though. It's just so hard when I want to be sympathetic to how she must feel but I also want to make sure her kids are happy when they are with me and their dad....