Friends relationship is going south and I'm stuck in the middle.

[Kirk1]

I have two friends, and last year they both left long term (unhappy) relationships to be with each other. Tonight I saw one of them being physical with the other. I have told her ( well both of them) that I witnessed the fight and that I'm not happy with her and now I'm not sure how I feel about her. I love both of my friends, but I saw their relationship not lasting. Anyone any advice how I can support both friends and not take sides?

It shouldn't make any difference but they are both women. They are both sending me texts, all of us are drunk, and I don't want to be a relationship councillor to them... I don't feel qualified for this.

Don't answer the texts. Don't drink any more.

Well, first thing is no more texting. That can't possibly end well. Drink some water and go to bed.

Second thing is, whichever one was violent to the other should be reported to the police. You could encourage the victim to do so although it would be better if the perpetrator reported herself.

Thirdly, it's virtually impossible to support both sides in a relationship breakdown. Your choices are probably one or none. If you announce you are not going to take sides you will probably find neither can really talk to you until the relationship fallout is over. You really don't want to end up carrying messages between them, being confided in by both in the hopes you will tell the other, it's all just too awful.

Step back and let the dust settle before deciding anything. But really, really - stop texting tonight.

Ah, I'm home now, was at a beer festival with DH. No more drinking tonight. Have told both to go to bed and that I'm doing the same. That solves tonight, what about tomorrow and Monday and the rest of the time when they're supposed to be looking after DS2? (my childminders! Yes registered)

I'm not sure I would want my DC cared for by people who express themselves in physical violence. Hate to say it but the fall out from this might be bigger than you feared. Is there any sensible way you can review childcare for DS2?

Stay out of their relationship fall out

And get a new childminder...this is all too close for comfort

Yep - sorry but you can't mix business and friendship like this.

I'd use my time finding childcare that isn't about to impose in the breakup of a violent relationship before I used it trying to sort them out. It's not your job.
And agree with the poster above, even if the childcare wouldn't be affected by break up (or if they stay together) I wouldn't choose a violent childminder.