DP has been chatting to women online and sending dirty pics :(

[NonGrockle29]

I am sorry, I don't know where to post this. I am so upset that I had to tell someone and... definitely don't want to tell someone I know!

I used my laptop this evening for the first time since DP used it last night. He left his email logged in and I (I know this was wrong) had a look. He has been sharing dirty messages and pictures with other women and even going so far as to arrange dirty meet ups in the woods (sick eh?)... I don't want to sound pathetic but I caught him out last year before my dd was born. I told him then to delete EVERYTHING and we would forget it happened... Now I know he has deceived me again and I feel utterly heartbroken... I am going to confront him tonight when he gets in from work.

I also found pictures of him WITH another woman... no face of course but I know him and it wasn't me for sure!

I have no clue what to say this time... I don't expect replies just... needed to get this out

No clue what to say ? I am presuming you are in shock, love, you poor thing.

Surely the only sane reaction to this is "get to fuck and never come back"

How horrible :(

Sounds like he will never change if he's done it before. Do you think you can forgive him again?

My ex did this. Exactly the same. First time whilst I was pregnant, I asked the same of him. Gave it another shot only to have it thrown back in my face.
The best thing I ever did was leave the lying cheating arsehole.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I know how crap you will be feeling. I know it doesn't feel like it now but it is NOT your fault and it IS his loss.

I would be putting his things outside and locking the door!

I don't think I can forgive him this time! I knew something wasn't right. I just feel sick. ten years and it must mean nothing to him.

They think it's relatively harmless. That they can separate their emotional lives from what their cocks do. Unfortunately their partners didn't sign up for that. You've given him one chance to change his ways and he's betrayed you again.

Have you started packing his shit yet?

Too right you can't forgive him again. Look where it got you last time? He just carried on and he will carry on again, because he's a dirty, sleazy bastard. He's clearly not just been 'chatting' and 'sending dirty pics' if there are photos of him with another woman and he's been meeting them in the woods.

Be prepared for all the lies and bullshit excuses about how he didn't really meet anyone and how he didn't actually do anything and 'it wasn't me in the picture' and how it was all just a bit of 'fun' 'excitement' 'distraction' ... and he wouldn't follow through.

My heart goes out to you, it really does, but you've already given him one chance too many. Please don't let him get away with it again. Tell him the game's up.

Focus on yourself and your little girl - he doesn't deserve either of you.

Don't forgive him again. Get and STD check. Copy all of it for your own records and keep it safe for those moments when you need a reminder of the truth.
Pour yourself some and start packing his things.
No one needs someone like that in their lives. I hope you are OK and getting to the anger stage now?

Sorry but you need to get him out of your life and an sti check for yourself (sorry to have to say this) definitely you shouldn't forgive him. Once is a mistake, but if you make the same choice again it's no longer a mistake but a choice.

That must have been a horrible thing to discover, but rest assured that however you choose to deal with this, your sanity is not in question as implied by another poster.