first major disagreement after 15 years marriage - I'm scared

[bummer]

scared because this has never happened before, scared because I needed his support and am not getting it.
scared because I don't know what to do when he arrives home in 20 mins and I don't want to back down.
scared because if I give in it will be something that I really am too scared to do and it's been hard reaching this decision.
wish I had someone to hold my hand and make my world a bit better. sorry to sound so pathetic just so upset and I always get help from mn

Tell him you are scared?

oohh sorry you feel like this. I think if you are not used to disagreements its all the more shocking. can you talk about how you feel togwther - don't want to pry about the nature of the disagreement - but is a compromise possible?

tell him exactly what you've written there

If you've got this far without major disagreement you will be doing lots of things right. Main thing is to communicate, be open, honest and, if you feel you're getting too angry, stop, and start talking again where you are calmer

yes, I'd have most of your original post printed out on a placard and be sat on the sofa with it waiting.

Was it ok?

Are you OK bummer?

Yes, what news...

(curiosity is killing me...)

also keeping a wtch - hope you're ok

Hope you are ok bummer.

Really sorry not had chance to respond until now. thank you for your replies I just needed to offload quickly to someone. Of course you were all right. Briefly, he came home and rushed in hugged me, kissed me said how sorry he was and asked me if I was ok. Big relief! However, due to the children it was not until this morning that we finally got chance to talk really talk about it all. We understand how each other feels and both feel better at the moment. So for now that's it. Many thanks again.