Communication between dates...how should it be?

[superstarheartbreaker]

Went on a lovely first date last week. Got on well, great chemistry, fumbling but no sex.
He was very complimentary and chatty. He wanted a shag I think hence the compliments I reckon but still got in touch when I said I wasn't ready.

In between he has texted but it's all quite short and clipped and not at all romantic like it was when face to face. I guess this is normal right? My last bf sent some very poetic texts but he was an idiot!
We are meeting tonight at his but I have insisted he takes me out. I do want the physical but I need to warm up first. Trouble is he hasn't communicated to tell me where we are going yet.
His texts are always a bit like "morning! ;) " which doesn't tell me much.

I have been much more restrained with texts than normal. Sigh.

Is there any point in dating during the World Cup? Grr!

For me I wouldn't be expecting romantic texts just after a first date. I wouldn't be giving any either. You need to get to know each other a bit first.
I agree his texts are shot but then at least he is texting you so must be thinking of you.
My guess is though the fact that your meeting at his would indicate he's hoping you'll cave in tonight and shag him or he would have offered to pick up up or meet somewhere.
Have a nice night tho

Why don't you suggest a venue if he hasn't come up with anything yet?

Maybe he wants to watch the football with you. I'm glad you're careful before jumping into bed. A lot of people are really loose and there are so many STDs around at the moment including some that even a condom won't protect you against.

Bloody hell Conservative you fly in from the 50's or something? Loose?

I do agree it's far too early for long/soppy texts but it's nice that he's obviously thinking of you.

I'm 50/50 on whether tonight is about getting you into bed or getting you in front of the football though - maybe both! Why don't you suggest, oh I dunno, the cinema at 8pm and see what he says?

Oh fuck off, reported. Hate speech not allowed here.

How is it hate speech? Millions of people are offended by gay marriage including most people in my local party branch. Not everyone is a free-for-all liberal-lefty!

Just reported "conservative" ( or is that fascist? Or neo-nazi???) for inappropriate homophobic comments .....but also for being generally unhelpful as well.

OP ....am in sort of the same boat as you so watching your thread with interest.....only I did shag ??........

I don't think it is hate speech - if it is then you have to silence papers like the Mail and the Telegraph where conservative views are commonly expressed.

Actually, to be scrupulously fair, I suspect you are being goady rather than anything else. To provoke a reaction from people on t'internet. Like me. So I'll just pop off.

But before I do, know that for every person 'offended' by gay marriage there are countless others who will always stand up for the right for people to marry who the hell they like.

I think you should find a different forum where your homophobic views are welcome. And stop derailing the OPs thread.

Or

Do fuck off dear.

What a tit. Conservative, not you OP.

Think the texts sound fine to me, does he like football? He's not planning on taking you to watch it is he? Unless of course, you're a big fan!

Maybe he's just not that into texting?
Have you tried actually phoning him for a chat?

Oh - and enough with the goady comments about gay marriage/civil partnerships, conservative. I'd much rather live in a society where we encourage two people who love one another to make a commitment, thank you very much, than one where narrow minded bigots prevail.

Evening all. Many thanks for your reports, we're reading through them at the moment.

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op, sounds to me like he just wants the physical and that's why he wants you round at his place.

let us know how you go on.

Superstar, perhaps, like me, he's far more chatty in the flesh than in writing. I often struggle knowing how to reply to my BFs texts so they don't come across as short. I wouldn't read too much into it; if he's making contact that shows he's thinking of you.