At what point do I go it alone..?

[fourlegstwolegs]

I don't know where to post this really....

Brief history -
I was married, now divorced
Late 30's
I have a young son (less than 2 yrs old)
Ex left us a few months ago (not coming back)
I have a very low ovarian reserve (clinic told me not to wait to have another child)

I have put myself back into the dating game but because of where I live (very rural) it's hard to meet new people. What I really want of course is to meet a lovely man, get married and have a lovely happy future with more children.

HOWEVER...time isn't on my side. I have a really low AMH level and the clinic told me if I wanted another child I'd have to get on with it. But obviously that's not exactly an option right now.

I certainly don't want to have a baby with the wrong man, but equally I really want another child. So I have thought about using a sperm donor.
I just don't really know how long to hold out for "the one". I don't want to miss my chance of having another child but equally by getting pregnant and having a baby on my own puts me out of the dating game for another 18 months or so, thus reducing the odds of finding "the one" again.
I can probably wait another 9 months or so, but beyond that I am seriously pushing it, eggs-wise.

Thoughts....?

My initial reaction is do it. Loads of cons but none as big as regretting not having a second child IMO.

That said I'm not in that position and I get that the reality is quite different to the idea.

Be happy with your lot?

Personally, I'd say do it now.
If having a second baby is important just do it, in 6 months time you may meet someone who you are in love with who isn't ready for a baby so you wait for him then you split up and your chance has gone and you have no partner also. Just to be negative

Do you have much family support? Friends?
If you feel comfortable to do it alone I'd say do it, I would
Don't miss out waiting for "the one" that could easily turn out to be the wrong one!!

A child is a winner every time

You have many, many years ahead to enjoy dating and find a new partner.

If you really want another child and have the means and support to do it alone, I would go for it.

I think you need to decide which is more important to you? Another baby or a partner?

You've just come out of a long-term relationship so make sure you give yourself some time to work out what you want before diving into anything.

Good luck.

"Ex left us a few months ago"

That is where I would say you need to stop unless you are prepared to freeze your embrios.

You have not been a sungle parent for long enough to realise what involves adding a second child to the equation.
Could you provide financially for them? Pay for both nursery fees while you work? What about school holidays? What support do you have in place.

Putting the issue of a new partner to the side, can you cope with both children on your own? It is not enough to be broody, it is about being able to parent two kids singlehandedly for years to come.

Yes I have plenty of support. That's true I suppose, I have time to meet a man in the future but no time to have another baby.
Deftones - not sure how to interpret the sentiment behind that, but it's not about being "happy with my lot", it's also partly because I want my son to grow up with a sibling, not be an only child. He'd be lonely, especially given where I live. I think it's important for both of us.

Good to hear you are well supported OP.
Have you worked it out financially how you would manage?

Yup, financially I could cope with another one. A bit of short term pain but not too bad. I am self employed and can do most of my work from anywhere. I didn't really stop with DS.

I think if you are late 30s you had better get on with it.

oh yes absolutely. If you have financial security and decent support, in that situation I would.