Got drunk and upset DH

[sweetmaria]

Last night we decided to get a few bottles of vodka in as my birthday is coming up but we ended up inviting a few friends around (both his and mine) and had quite a bit to drink. My relationship with DH has been quite strained recently and a big bust up has been waiting to happen but I've been trying to keep the peace, until last night when I had a few too many.

It started off with me telling everyone what DH eats in a normal day (v. excessive with food) and it was said in a very "here's a laugh for everyone.." kind of way. DH got annoyed as his mates started to take the mick out of him so he pulled me up in the kitchen and asked me to stop showing him up. When we went back into the front room they had all got together and stuffed things up their tops to take the mick out of DH's belly. I was in hysterics but I could see DH getting more and more wound up. A bit later on we split, boys in the kitchen and girls in the living room and our conversation got onto DH again and I told them that I felt he was really camp, we had a good laugh about that but then they started shouting of him and doing camp/gay gestures to him, everyone was in hysterics and DH pulled me aside again and told me to change the subject. By the end of the night most of his mates had gone home and it was just 3 of my friends and one of DH's, he had stopped drinking but me and my friends were getting very drunk by this point and I scribbled all over a photo of his mum and stuck it on the fridge, we cut up a few pairs of his socks and threw some of his boxer shorts out of the front bedroom window, I have not laughed so much for years and the night really cheered me up, DH however is not talking to me and has even said now that he is wondering if we are really suited to one another.

I know I went over-board but he has embarrassed me before in front of friends, just he doesnt like it when the tables are turned. I know I should apologise for taking the piss taking so far but I also know he wouldnt apologise if it was the other way around. Maybe he's right anyway and we're not suited, he's a misserable git and I like a laugh. What should I do?

I'm fascinated to know what sort of person you would be suited to, Sweetmaria, if this continues to be your idea of a great night out!

For heavens sake - if you are going to let off steam by taking the piss out of your DH, you do it in the pub with Fio and Fairyfly - not in front of him and his mates!

Not much respect in your relationship is there ?

Assuming this is a serious thread in search of a serious response I think you were acting like a bully. You don't treat someone you supposedly care about like that especially in his own home. If this is how you behave when drinking I'd think about giving it up TBH.

Poor bloody man.

how old are you?

geez. i was a total drunk and i have to say it would never have occured to me to scribble all over photos and cut up clothes.

grow up you silly bitch. If Iw ere him I would have lifted you and sat you on the grass, that would soon have sobered you up. The you could have fu*ked off and made fun of someone else. Arsehole.

this is sweetmarias only ever thread.trip trap indeed.

Serious thread response is

Thats horrible

Trip, fallover, stumbles, falls over again trap afte a few bottles of vodka!

can i just say this has nothing to do with either me or my dear sister fairyfly, despite our need to get drunk and cut up our other halves clothes

DOH - when I saw trippity-trapp the goat story instantly came to mind, although I couldn't work out the link....it's all just clicked into place!

Come on, noone is taking this seriously are they?

This is so a wind up.

hmm - I still feel half ashamed and half defiant that I posted a serious response on the DumbFluff thread, but will continue to hope every post is genuine until proved otherwise...
[naïve emoticon]

I'm not convinced this is fake, frankly. I'm not convinced it's not, either, granted.

And yeah, better to assume things are real, and get fooled sometime, than to treat someone's genuine problems as a joke. Ok, granted, this person (if real) already thinks it's all a joke ...

I think it's real and i like Mrs Badgers post on getting to the bottom of the problem.

OK

But i'm very rarely right

Dumbfluff, now she was a REAL woman.

Oh dear, HD's getting that glint in his eyes again ...

Reading the OP, I realised that if a man did all of that to a woman, I'd say he was a bully. So er that's what I think not-so Sweetmaria is.

Ahhh Dumbfluff..........

Granted I have only given a very small glimse into our lives which is probably why it seems to shocking what happened.
DH is an arsehole basically, he DOES ridicule me in front of my friends, he emails/phones his friends telling them what I do in bed and discusses my 'flaws' with them. He continuously tells me I'm fat and ugly, he threw out some of my best clothes as he said they made me look fat and also threw some brand new jeans out as he said he would not be with a size 16 and I would have to wear my size 14 and lose weight. He told all of his family that I was a prositute as a joke but carried on the joke for a good few weeks without me knowing and wondering why all his family were being funny with me.

sweetmaria, if your post if genuine, then fighting fire with fire is really not the way to go. If the relationship is truly abusive, you know where the door is.

Sounds like you're as bad as each other and don't have a lot of respect for each other. Are there any good points to your relationship? Do you have children?

sweetmaria - why are you with him??

he told your family you were a prostitute????

You could get on Trisha with that