can it work if long term you're living in separate houses??

[roselier]

I'm in a relatively new relationship. We are very happy, all is going well. In the next few months we hope to meet each other's DC, families etc. We both view it as something very long term.

We live about 30-40 miles apart, and because of DC's schools (and work, though school is the main reason) are going to be living in separate houses for the next 5 years, possibly longer.

We spend 2 nights a week together at present, which is just about enough for now, but in future we both want to have more time together- I'm just not sure due to distance, children etc how we will be able to achieve it.

Has anyone else been in a similar position? How did you manage?

We live 120kms apart but manage to spend about 8 nights out of 14 together. Unlikely to be able to live together for another 5 years or more. But we are making plans for a future for all 6 of us together eventually.

Managed for 4 years living apart. Moved in together a couple of years ago.
No problems.
And my father has lived separately from his girlfriend for 17 years!

That's encouraging.

Although the main worry I think is how we can increase on the 2/7 nights we currently do...I think getting that above 3 nights will be a struggle, even once we have introduced DC, because of logistics for us both getting to work, DC getting to school etc.