Cant sleep in the same bed

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Hi,
DP and I have been together 7 years and have 2 dd's 3&5 y/o. Both have slept well since 1 and have their own rooms. DP and I have very different body clocks, I am a morning person and he is a night person. I work shifts.

Basically we do not sleep together- he falls asleep watching tv and I go to bed early. We have a spare room that I use 18 nights a month- due to shift patterns (as it means I wont get disturbed by kids waking up and it has blackout curtains)

When he tries to come to bed its usually at 530 am and it wakes me up (if I am there and I cant get back to sleep) as I am so used to being alone. We hardly see each other but I feel I have to prioritise sleep over sex (I am always the one to get up with the kids on my day off or when I am working earlies)

So my question is - does anyone not sleep together but have a good relationship? What tips do you have?

Sleep and sex are two seperate things IMO. And you can't have the second without the first.

I really wish we had enough bedrooms to sleep separately. My DH snores like a train and I'm constantly sleep deprived.

We do (due to snoring) and it's fine, better than murder!!!

Have sex in the living room before you go up to bed? Or go up together and he goes downstairs again after while you go to sleep?

Molly we tend to have sex in the living room - I'm not worried about the sex ( we average once every 10 days which isn't bad IMHO- both enjoy it etc)
Its more that we don't see each other much- we play pass the baby and work opposite shifts to save on childcare bills

I guess Im worried that we hardly see each other and I'm fine with that- IYSWIM

But that's the reality of life with small children isn't It? Don't stress, if it works for you it's all good.

Yeah, seriously if it works for you it works.

I often spend the night in the guest room because of snoring. I can't imagine lying there seething just because we're supposed to be in the same bed!

we play musical beds like no one's business juggling snoring husband, 6 yo who creeps into bed and breastfed 6 week old. Always slept apart from husband due to his snoring at times, but now it's kind of funny, never know who's going to sleep or if someone's going to wake up in the same bed they went to sleep in.

We talk a lot, tease each other, deal with problems between us fairly quickly nowadays, try to give each other a break with having a tiny one in the house and the whole nightmare pregnancy has actually brought us much closer. Sleep wise he gets the full 8 hours a night and I sleep in in the mornings to catch up, though I can always call on him if i'm too sleepy to do a nappy change at 4 am. So we might or might not be in the same bed, but the relationship is better than ever.

So glad I'm not the only one who hardly spends the night with my DH. He snores like a train. We always start the night together tho and either I go when he falls asleep and the infuriating stuck warthog noise starts or we fall asleep together then I leave when he scares the shit out of me in the middle of the night with one of his sudden, loud snores. I'd love him to not snore, but there's not a lot I can do about that

Do what you need to do to get enough sleep.