Bad Boys

[zigazigah01]

I had a really traumatic break up around 2 years ago. I'd been with my ex for over 10 years.

I have moved on a lot since then and am feeling generally quite happy.

However dating is not really working out for me.

I feel I either date people who I quickly lose interest in, or else I am insanely attacted to the 'bad boys' i.e. womanisers and chancers. I can see that they're idiots but still go there.

How do I stop this? Or any ideas as to why I am doing this?

I would like another relationship, although I don't feel I absolutely need one, if that makes sense. It would be nice to spend time with someone again I think more than anything else. But I ain't going to get that from the bad boys.

Is it as simple as just recognising that I shouldn't be going after these types of guys and stopping myself from doing so?! I feel like these sorts of guys are the only ones I am actually attracted to. And I also feel/am concerned I am giving off some sort of vibe that makes them approach me.

Kentishgirl, that is really interesting. Ii think even though I am 36 this year I kind of am inexperienced with men - I was with my ex from the age of 20, so yeah, feel like I am still finding my feet flirting-wise.

Also because I was with him for a long time, and we didn't really have sex, I feel I missed out experimenting when I should have been in my 20's, so I suppose I am open to that now.

I suppose that combination might be giving the wrong impression.

It's not having a FB in itself that's the issue were the FB less slippery and coming from a starting point of honesty if you see what I mean. It's that he's hot and cold with me and thinks I'm not smart enough to see what he's up to. And just that I would like to be doing that experimenting with someone who cares for me.