I'm free!

[ThenewMissPhoenix]

I have name changed on MN & in real life! My STBXH left me and our three daughters aged between 17 & 24 for OW 18 months ago. I thought our marriage was perfect & I adored him. We had been together since we were 15 years old - nearly 30 years. I nearly succeeded in trying to commit suicide, but luckily I wasn't successful & my wonderful DD's, family and friends pulled me through. My DD's have nothing to do with their father now. So at the suggestion of my middle daughter we have all four of us changed our names - officially - legally. And WOW! We all feel so liberated & free of the grief, heartache, hurt & trauma that he put us through. I feel like I have walked into the sunshine after 18 months in the dark! My DD's are now proud of their name once again - not shamed at being associated with that horrid, selfish, despicable, pathetic excuse of a man! The "just as bad" OW is welcome to him & his ridiculous surname! I am 45 and feel reborn - girl power!!!!

Wow, Congratulations to all of you on your new life

Wishing you happiness and joy for the rest of it!

Congrats OP!! What a positive post.
Wishing you all well for (your very happy) future!

Sounds like a fantastic 'rebranding' exercise

Out of interest, what name did you all choose? Was it your maiden name or another family name?

Congratulations OP. What a lovely happy post. I wish you and your DD's a wonderful, happy future.

Wonderful post. You can be so proud if your daughters and they must be so proud of you. New name, new future.

Thank you! Rebranding - I never thought of it like that but that's exactly what we have done. We have all changed for the better. Our house is a bright & happy place. It smells delicious. We laugh & talk & dance. We never use insults at each other. People just drop in because they enjoy being here. Although we had a very happy marriage - or so I thought - now we have all got over the initial pain (it does still hurt at times I won't lie) - we all just feel free & don't have to step on egg shells anymore & can do whatever we want without fear of retribution. Our house is girly, welcoming, happy & fun. And I just love it! We were a bit cliche in choosing our new surname - we used Phoenix - as we felt as if we were rising from the ashes of a previous life - stronger & happier - plus it went well with all of our Christian names!

That's fantastic, I did wonder if you'd gone for Phoenix. It reminds me of Ballet Shoes and the girls choosing Fossil because it's all their own and no-one can say their future successes can be attributed to their grandfathers.

:) that is amazing...it really is a brand new name. How fantastic when your daughters grandchildren ask where the name came from. The answer will be "it came from girl power". Love it. Well done you- bloody great :)

What a lovely positive post which may inspire some people on this board who are at the beginning of their journey. Your girls are so lucky having such a brave, positive role model in their lives. Good luck for your future. Girl power indeed!!!

I wish you and your girls nothing but happiness Miss Phoenix