Don't know how to (whether to) broach the subject of OW with DD1.

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ExH left in February having had an affair. He's not living with OW but she has met our DDs (age 2 and 4) a number of times.

ExH is taking the DDs to centre parks for a few days and she is going with her DDs. They aren't staying together but they will be spending time together. DD1 seems happy with this. We've been on holiday with friends before and she like having other children to play with, but I am worried about how she sees OW. She mentioned that ExH and OW had kissed and cuddled in front of her.

I don't know if this is confusing for her or if it is going to upset her. I don't know whether I should say anything to her (DD1) or to ExH. She knows that we live apart, but she still talks about mummy and daddy together. If I say I love her and DD2, she will say "and daddy too".

Any advice?

The ins and outs of adult relationships are lost on small children and it's really down to your Ex to put his new girlfriend in context. If you talk to him, it might be an idea to suggest that he acts sensitively i.e. like a grown-up and not a lovesick teen. I would suggest you state the fact which is that there is Mummy, Daddy and 'Daddy's friend'. DD lives with Mummy and, when they go to see Daddy, Daddy's friend will be there as well. No more explanation than that.

Thanks Cogito. That's quite reassuring.