It is not getting any easier

[Taz29duffy]

My fiancé walked out 3 weeks and 1 day ago over a small argument about his drinking. I think there is an alcohol problem, he thinks I am being controlling.

The relationship was emotionally abusive at times and he was not great at showing any love or affection. That said day to day we had a pleasant life together.

Anyhow I literally can not sleep, eat or function. I have tried to return to work, but failed miserably. I have been to GP regularly and am on medication. I also am attending counselling.

Basically I feel like crap, I wish I was dead and not going through this. Being in the relationship was a million times happier than being like this. I find the loneliness unbearable. I have parents and friends for support, but that doesn't seem to ease the pain at all. I just want to wind te clock back and have my old life back.

just wanted to say I'm thinking of you. I am about to leave a very similar relationship and I am terrified but I also know that I am worth more than what he could offer me and you are too.

Hi perfectly posed. Sorry you are going through similar circumstances. Everyone keeps telling me I need to moe and I will be happy etc etc, but I'm utterly miserable and with each day it gets harder. I wake up and feel panic stricken.

I'm sorry you're feeling so low. The end of any relationship is bad but I think there's something especially upsetting about ones where there has been psychological bullying because it makes you emotionally dependent. You've got so used to poor treatment and having no affection that, right now, when he's told you it's over, it just feels like another abusive episode. You're still in the mindset of 'how can I make him happy?'.... when the truth is that you never could because it suited him better to be unhappy with you.

I know it's easy for me to say but things do get better. Three weeks is the blink of an eye so you have to look after yourself and just get through each day best you can. Eat even if you don't want to, make sure you get out in the fresh air every day and get as much sleep as possible. Do get back to work sooner rather than later because work is a very good way to keep your mind from dwelling on sad thoughts. It's a good diversion. When the day comes that you feel even a little less miserable, try to make the most of it.