Have a feeling I should have 
. Ex and I separated a year ago and he lives abroad. I have posted about this before, sorry don't know how to do clicky links.
DS1 (13) wants nothing to do with his Dad and at first DS 2 (10) was the same but he did come round and I did help to facilitate getting their relationship back on track for DS2's sake not ex's who quite frankly does not deserve them.
So, DS1 is adamant he does not want to send his dad anything, fair enough, Ds2 says he will but never actually sits down with me to look online to order stuff. It was the same for ex's birthday, I had to nag and then practically tie Ds2 down to get round to order anything. I'm thinking that this is symptomatic of the fact that ex is now very uninvolved in Dc's lives but I know that a big part of me just couldn't be bothered given the shit he has put me through this past year.
To make matters worse Ex was here on Mothers day and did take Ds2 to get mothers day stuff for me. Ex has always set a lot of importance to birthdays etc and I guess he will blame me for not getting anything.