What do I do when I feel angry?

[Peonysandblueglass]

DP is doing everything he can to help me feel at home in his rented house (we can't move elsewhere for the time being).

He was a massive hoarder before I came and knows it makes me unhappy so has thrown a lot away ad has even bought a large shed to put the stuff in, so he's doing all that he can.

BUT I feel such a sense of loss when I think about my old house with space, quiet, room and things that were an expression of me. I've been having angry dreams more about my situation that towards him but obviously he is a key component.

I have got bad PMT this month and just feel f*ing furious about my situation.

How do I be honest about my feelings and not suppress my anger without upsetting him?

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Would love to know the answer! Be patient you will get the stuff sorted slowly. Five years together and still surrounded by too much stuff but now it is just the attic and garage . Know what you mean about feeling angry about it though. So very difficult.

I don't think you should suppress it but from what you said, it sounds like it's not really fair to take it out on him. Do you do any exercise, something physically intense may help, ideally kickboxing so that there is physical contact (with pads, I'm not suggesting you jump into sparring ). A PT could do this with you too. That would be very cathartic. But a run or a swim or weight lifting could also help a lot. Beat up a pillow if necessary. Then talk it out, be honest about your feelings but be clear that it's not his fault ...

Thanks I've been cycling a lot lately but this past week I have been so busy at work that I haven't done any exercise. I will give it a try thank you.

I have found a visual way to deal with this kind of thing, the angst that is. (I feel bad posting as I am actually a hoarder, ex artist and a primary teacher, however a super organised one who needs to know where things are At Any Time )

I discovered pinterest and collect pics of things I both need for ideas for work etc but also how I'd like the garden to look, my ds's room, etc etc. I find the visual distraction really really helpful. and collect good ideas along the way! (I hope I'm not breaking any rules there; I genuinely find it therapeutic!)

Also, if your pmt is that bad, is it worth seeing the Dr? maybe some low level anti depressants etc? I very much second exercise. And recently read that vitamin d is good for pmt, so some sunshine might help too.