I'm going to LTB. wtf do I do next?

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I've posted about our situation bfore. 'D'P is not nice to my dd, has depression. He chops and changes moods, last night went from kind and loving to so angry about how I let dd be involved in adult conversations (we talk about solicitor regarding the house we were supposed to be buying there's a hole in the roof, why ffs is that not something she can be aware of?!)
Anyway, he has a strop, I can't live like this! Won't explain himself any better than 'she's a child, it's not her place"

Anyway, he's basically saying it's over (tbh I knew this and was biding my time while I figure out how I can support the dcs and find somewhere to live

Bit rambly and unclear, please keep me strong and help me make the break

Good for you, it's the right thing for your dd.
What steps do you need to take?

how old is your dd?

I don't know about depression but he sounds like a miserable bastard and a bully. Glad you've decided to protect your child. Do you have to be the one that leaves or can you get him out of the door? If you need help with accommodation, finance etc I'd recommend you contact Womens Aid for ideas or make an appointment with CAB, the local Housing Authority or similar. Strike while the iron is hot, even if you haven't got everything lined up exactly.

Good luck

Are you renting, currently?

Good for you OP, your dd will thank you for it one day x

Dd is 9, DS we have together is 5 mo

If you have a small baby, is there really no way he can be persuaded to leave rather than you putting two children through the upheaval? Do you rent/own?

If he isn't nice to your dd she will just start to believe that it is normal for men to treat women this way. Especially if the behaviour is accepted by you.

Do you have to go? Are you married. Is it his house? I see yous are in the process of buying one. This sounds like a big mistake. Be careful if you go through with it as I doubt you're going to get the fairy tale ending with this man. No doubt when you tell him you want to leave he will promise you the earth. If you cave and give him another chance. Please make sure you protect your dd from him. He could start resenting her especially if you defend her too much. I'm in a blended family and I swear my dd gets equally respect and treatment as the other kids. When that's been questionable I'm onto it faster than a Ferrari! Nobody is worth more than your dc. We choose who to bring into their life and so we have to make sure they don't suffer as a consequence of that. Good luck with it all