I found out yesterday that my estranged h bought tickets for a gig for him and the ow to go to tonight. They were bought at a point when we were supposed to be trying to make it work, though he since moved out, supposedly until next week.
They were not especially expensive, but were bought from our joint account - I am the sole earner and he has no money. I took his cards from him, but his dm persuaded me to give it back to 'tide him over' until her loan goes through. She says to make sure he pays back what he spends in the meantime.
Of course, I went mad at him - he didn't get it. Said she was going to give him the money for her ticket - not the fucking point. Don't know who he is anymore. I then sent the ow the following:
It is me you owe the money for the gig to. I accept cash or cheques. I believe you know where I live.
Of course, there was no reply. Anyway, today I saw on his email account (still hasn't changed the password) that she sent him a pinterest page with expensive kitchens on it. This despite his continual denials that he intends to set up home with her. She is still married but owns another house Is it all just a joke to them? Why are they doing this?
I have just sent another text:
Just to be clear, anything that X pays for is in fact being paid for by me. So if you could just haul your standards up from the gutter where they currently lie, my children and I would appreciate it.
I have made myself look an hysterical fool, haven't I? Btw, I know it is him I need to be angry with, and I am. I am seeking legal advice and will open a new bank account, but she knows our financial position. I would never, ever do what she is doing.
It hurts so much.