Is there such a thing as bad timing?

[Concernedbiddy]

About 5 years ago 9 months after my marriage spilt up I met someone! There was instant attraction on both sides and we were crazy about each other! He had also come out of a marriage about a year before!

The timing was just wrong in every level, we were both trying to deal with our own shit etc and to be honest the whole time we spend together (2 years on/off) were just a car crash.

Since then we have both moved on, sorted out our life's, dated other though always remand in touch to a certain level and are on very good terms, we both think highly of each other, always got on fantastically and adore each other!

Last night out the blue he called and said he missed me, that he was sorry for how it went it was just bad timing and that he wasn't over his marriage at that time and the same 100% goes for me!

3 years down the line we are both sorted, happy in ourselfs and our life's!

He has suggested a meal to catch up on Friday night!

Is there such a thing as we are meant to be together and that the time wasn't right and we are being given a second chance or are we just going to dig up the car crash we used to have?

It's just dinner.... If you're winding it up into some big second-chance romantic deal or if it's going to dredge up a lot of bad old feelings and in any way spoil your current life then don't go. If you're approaching it as a change to reminisce and part ways with a 'no hard feelings' tying up of loose ends then it might be a nice evening.

What an interesting question. I used to think timing was probably a key factor. Now I am inclined to think if essentially you and a partner share certain values and are looking for the same thing, it is less about timing or planetary alignments or outside forces, more about how the two of you work in synch.

If you are curious and hope for another chance, meet him. But I rather suspect that two years of muddle was probably sufficiently long enough for you both to have made it work, had the relationship ever truly stood a chance.

Well...some things look like bad timing, but really are car crashes.
I tend to share Donkeys' view, and think that you are either ok together or you're not - whatever is going on in your lives.

If you were a friend of mine, I'd suggest keeping an open mind and not expecting too much. See how it goes.

I think two years of not being able to work it out is down to more than bad timing.

I don't believe in "meant to be together". But there's no harm in going for dinner. Just keep your expectations under control.
Perhaps he remembers you as a good lay (sorry to lower the tone)

I do believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason!

He was a good part of my life for many reason and from it with have both found a true friend, so for that reason alone I'm going to go to dinner and enjoy myself!

Why did you call it a car crash?