How to deal w this/is this normal?

[CocktailQueen]

I'm not sure how to deal with this, or even what I'm asking. Helpful, eh?

I have put on a lot of weight in the 15 years we've been married, but dh still fancies the pants off me, and says things like, I have the best body/boobs/bum in the world - but I just can't take him seriously, because I know what I look like.

I haven't wanted sex much recently because of my weight, but dh is still vv keen to have sex and when we do, it's great. But can he really not notice or care that I've put on weight? really? He notices if other people have ...

Sex appeal is really nothing to do with weight, nor is fancying someone you love. Love yourself like he does :)

I've put on about 3 stone since being with DP and he doesn't notice, he finds me as sexy as ever, I think he's weird but it's all perception. DP has piled on a few pounds but I haven't noticed cause I love him and find him super hot!

Well said VanitasV!
There is an inner beauty in someone you love, doesn't matter what you look like on the outside. However that love can be dampened and damaged by actions.
Be proud of what you are and have. enjoy and strengthen you're relationship with your DH.

What everyone else said . Your DH sounds lovely!

Have you ever considered that the way you look is the way that he really likes. Guess yr a not size 4 skinny magazine model? That's not what he wants. You do it for him just the way you are. If you could just accept that he is telling you the truth you would be so much happier and you would feel sexy again. If you're really not happy with your weight then why not try and lose a few pounds? If not, enjoy who you are and enjoy having a super sex life with your DH again.

It's been scientifically proven that how you feel about a romantic partner affects how sexually attractive you find them. Studies showed that people rated their partners quite differently depending on the context of their relationship at the time they were asked. There being quite dramatic differences between the response following a happy day out together compared to the response just following a disagreement.

My DP has gained a little bit of weight since we got together. He worries about it far more than he should IMO. Apart from the fact that I don't see it as a significant amount anyway (less than a stone), I really don't care. He still looks gorgeous to me and I find him extremely attractive.

The only time to be worrying about weight is if you need to because it's affecting your physical health and shortening your life. Aesthetic reasons are, quite frankly, BS.

Believe your DP and go with it.

Ah, thank you all :) Appreciate your replies.

you'll burn off a few cals in the sack added bonus