Abusive exp applying at court for residency and problems with contact

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I split with ex p in december. I went to a refuge.

I had ss involved from day1 of split it went to child protection to keep an eye on us.

I had to move refuge as he found my address.

Im now in a new area and dc1 was starying to come round to seeing dad.

The dc reieved a letter from dad a few days ago dc1 was happy I told the sw. I believe dc1 was happy as there was money in it and felt like it bribed her. (Exp refusing to pay csa since he got a job and refusing to speak to csa)

So today the sw phoned and said exp is applying to court for residency. She give me cafcass phone number. Sw also told me that contact starts in a few days for 4hours and a 90min drive away. There is no court order for contact. Contact will go ahead every week for the same amount of time.

I phoned my sol. She told me residency doesn't exist anymore and the sw seems ti be gwtting ahead of herself as ive recieved no court papers just sw recieved a letter from cafcass stating what exp is doing.
We had a chat about contact amd said im willing for contact to go ahead every second week for 4hours with likelyhood to increase overtime. Thw reason I was unhappy about every week is I would have no quality time with dc. During school holidays an extra day could be added. I also believe weekly is too much at the moment as they not seen him forso long.

So as dc1 was happy to see her dad and I thought it woupd be good for her. I told her. She was happy and smiling at thw start then when she asked if I was going with her and I rold her I wont be. She switched and said "I dont want to go to see dad he smacked me and was nasty to me" (she wont tell sw anything as sw wont come often enough to build a relationship with dc) so ever since shes been screaming and saying she wont go.

What can I do? Sw told me if I dont send her court can issue 3times a week or even exp residency. Dc has not seen thwir dad for 6montha and I thought we were ready for contact to start but dc1 is refusing again.

I believe hes only applied at court as he wants to play happy families with his new girlfriend. Hes also claiming I abused him which is laughable but hes refused to do a dv course "as I got over it within a few days" ss have dobe no assesments on him at all.

Im on a parenting courae and waiting to go to a confidence course and freedom programme when they start.

Ia there a chance hell gwt residency and can I stop contact going ahead?

Sorry didn't want to read and run. Is there any reports of his abuse towards you? Police etc.? If there is I doubt he would get residency. I would find it hard to believe that they would take any child away from their main carer (you) to give them to someone who hasn't even bbothered to see them in months. Someone with better advice will be along soon

I made a police statement when I left and I have drs stating the amount of control he had over me. The police took no further action.

Ive told dc1 that ahe seeing dad in a few days and she juat switches to an angry, confused little girl. She disclosed some stuff that happened to her but she wont tell sw or teacher but I cant blame hwr as she tried to twll them before and noone listened. Im going to speak to my sol tomorrow as I cant allow contact to go ahead this week at least until I sort dc out a bit. We need to get to the bottom of her issues. She damaged toys, threw dinner on floor, ripped things, never listened and just seemed different. This behaviour seems different to her normal bad behaviour . Shes never been destructive especially sincw she had to leave all of her toys.

She did say thay she only wanted to see dad to gwt her toys back.