Okay, is this some kind of record - we got our final order regarding dd's living arrangements last week, after two bloody years in court. This evening he is threatening to take me to court again.
The reason - Father's Day falls on my weekend. He asked me if he could have her for lunch. I said no - he has her the next day for an overnight stay anyway. A couple of days ago, he ruled out swapping weekends so I can take her to my brother's wedding, so I said we can either both be flexible or we can both stick to the court order, but he can't have all the flexibility he wants and deny it to me (believe me, he has form). Cue threats to march down to the courthouse tomorrow unless I give in.
The annoying thing is that I was actually already considering giving way for dd's sake. I don't want to get bogged down in petty tit for tat, and I think she would quite like to go to father's day lunch. But if I say that now, it'll look like I'm caving in to his threats of more court and he'll be delighted he's got this rod to beat me with.
Unsurprisingly, he's the usual package of abusive/controlling/dominating. But that said, he does have a decent relationship with dd, which I have always supported, though he would of course deny that entirely.
I'm sure he'll go to the courthouse, and will probably be told to go to mediation, and I don't want to be dragged back there again (if for no other reason, I resent having to take time off work). It's just the sheer relentlessness of it. Seriously, a court order on Thursday, and this again by Tuesday.