I've name changed for this post. DH and I have problems but are trying to work things out. The trouble is he's basically useless when it comes to sex. We have a baby so it's not like I want or expect it all the time but it would be nice for him to show he still finds me attractive and still wants sex with me. The two times it has happened since I had the baby I was the one who started it and the second time it was just awful and I went to bed alone thinking why did I bother doing that. Even if I make it obvious what I would like to happen its like he would rather just watch tv. He has said he has a lower sex drive then me which is fair enough but we'll kiss and he will obviously be turned on but will then just go and sit in front of the tv and ignore me. Everytime I put baby to bed early, piss around shaving my legs and whatnot, cook dinner and make it obvious it never goes anywhere unless I make it and even then it starts and stops until it's so late that I just want to go to sleep. Is it too much to ask to want to feel wanted and desired by the person who claims to love you? It's not just the sexual frustration that bugs me it's the lack of intimacy and closeness.