Advice on leaving DH

[Umbrellasandladders]

Please can someone advise me on what steps I need to take to separate from my husband.

I found out that he has been unfaithful (sort of) and has started shoving me around. I don't like him anymore and can't live with him.

We have two children under three. Is it likely that I would get custody of them? If the house gets sold is it 50/50?

I feel awful, upset and worried. Please can someone help?

Have you told him you want to separate? Do you think he will leave if you say you want a divorce?

When you split up there are some sort-of-set guidelines but no absolutes and you will have to do some negotiating with him.

First thing to do is gather together your financial facts. Others will be along soon with more concrete answers.

Sorry to hear your situation, i have just split from DH, we have one child. I would start by getting copies of as muc paperwork as you can pertaining to house, assets, pensions, bank statements etc. work out how much if any joint debt you have. Then call a few solicitors to get free consultations with a family solicitor, see two or three to see what they say. The minimum starting point is 50/50 however if as is the case with me, your husband earns more than you, has pension etc, you have potential for a greater percentage split in your favour as well as claims for pension and spiousal maintenance. I would call tax credits to see how much you can get single, think the threshold is £26k for a single person and works out childcare too. Then if you are defo going ahead with the split get house valued and put in chilc maintenance claim. My tax credits took 3 weeks to be approved but the money was instant. With regards to custody if you are currently primary caregiver it is likely to be you, especially if he works more hours than you. You can split 50/50 but may not be suitable if you have v young children. Ask him to leave and do no washing, cooking shopping etc for him to show you mean business about seperating. Good luck x