I would really like to meet someone lovely.

[Singlesuzie]

been here for a gazillion years but namechanged because RL people know my usual name.

Split with exp almost 4 years ago. Had a couple of flings that went nowhere (happily- they were fun people but not right for me as a partner) but apart from those no love prospects. Tried onlone dating a few times, met a couple of nice men amongst the many weirdos. Lovely guys but no chemistry/spark/attraction.

I want to meet someone nice. I get out locally with friends once every few months for a drink, but money is really tight so i cant get out more than that or join any clubs/hobbies/groups etc. (i am job hunting so hopeful that will change soon)

I am quite a friendly person, in that i will chat with anyone and everyone who strikes up a conversation and i make an effort with clothes and make up etc but i actually never meet anyone that i would want to pursue a relationship with (and nobody seems interested in me either)

Not really sure what i'm after with this thread. Maybe just having a whinge. I'm just not sure where i'm going wrong. People always ask whether i'm seeing anyone and it's getting to the point where i'm wondering why the hell i'm not. I really would like to.

You are right benzalkonium and i have really been just getting on with life, went back to college etc (all female course so not in an attempt to meet men ) i had just hoped in the course of my day to day life i might have met someone. Although i do live in a small town so seeing a lot of the same people again and again.

I think i will try the online dating again and take it less seriously. My friend says to just chat as if friends and not to expect it to go anywhere, however that seems a bit unfair on men who are interested in dating if i am just chatting with no intentions to date

Another one here ...... and I'm lucky to be able to have a bit of money spare for socialising and going out however it doesn't really make any difference I don't think. This is only my opinion but it seems to me only the v young (20's) meet people on nights out in pub, restaurants etc. I have a great social life - out 2/3 times a week but haven't met anyone at all because I'm with a group of married friends and it's not going to be a way to meet someone. All friends are married and we've know each other for years and I am the boss at work so nothing there. Tried OLD briefly and again just my opinion but it's awful. Dreadful men either outright trying to hook up for sex or want to text disgusting stuff and pictures in their underwear and expect you to respond in kind or pretending to chat for a bit before trying to hook up for sex!
So..... Sorry if I'm just reinforcing what you think but I honestly can't see how I would ever meet anyone and am resigned to singledom at 41 - which is depressing really but I'm trying to count my significant blessings (great career, fab DS, great friends, healthy etc) and get on with it!

"Although i do live in a small town so seeing a lot of the same people again and again."

Same people; different moustaches.

Same people; different moustaches.

What does that mean?

I have a single friend who went on a site called ' Girls go free.com' my friend was notified if anyone responded to her site and then she was able to Skype / or message them without revealing much about herself and before meeting them in person. The men have to pay. She showed it to me and it seemed brilliant.
I thought you might like to know about this site as it is free for women. Don't give up on Internet dating. When you were OOD ( object of desire) and I am not saying that you are not now, but I refer to my young self ( I am a pensioner) as once being an OOD, you would have trawled through lots of blokes and discarded most of them. Keep going and best of luck. Xx

Thank you i will try that website. I went back on to POF last night and noticed that the image sending facility has been removed for men! I am glad these websites are taking action to prevent women being inundated with unwanted and uninvited sexual advances.