ExP and the Nutty Trollop are back together...what a surprise!

[louby44]

My exP split with his so called girlfriend at the beginning of May. They had a major row at some friends of ours and she got her ex to come and fetch her in the middle of the night, 2 hours drive away!!! She moved out back to her ex!!

ExP came crawling back to me, stupidly I listened and for a few days there was talk of a reconciliation between us. Link below - don't know how to do it??? But it never would have worked and I realise that now!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2091843-I-beleived-him-when-he-said-he-wanted-to-try-again-what-a-fool

I truly thought he would take this opportunity to take stock, be on his own, get counselling, address his anger issues that have wrecked all of his relationships, but no, it's better be with someone than be alone.

What a sad, pathetic stupid man!

urgh anyway you can rent out some rooms and buy him out?

Smokinmirrors- I don't actually think op was asking for sympathy nor do I think she was trying to sell her house on MN?! I asked her if she's presented it well enough to sell, so she described it.

Don't like 'nutty trollop'

And on a board where in the current climate people are struggling with split ups, it's unseemly to post details about ones magnificent house and gardens.

get a grip op

Because people in big houses don't feel pain and upset????
They can't be affected by abusive relationships can they?

You sound like you have a chip on your shoulder.

And before you ask, I don't have a big house and I'm skint because of my break up. I just deal with my own shit and didnt think anything of the op describing her big house. Good for her. The fact you felt negatively about it and thought she shouldn't describe it says a lot about you IMHO.

smokin your posts seem rather jarring

OP has a nice house. But not for much longer...now does that make you feel better ?

bizarre

Can't help the house I live in, sorry!

Can't change the choices I've made, but I can change the ones I make in the future. I made a mistake and ended up living with a man that showed his true colours! I have to live with that every day.

Hope you feel better now! At least I'm a kind, decent and considerate person that tries to see the good in everything.

Big house doesn't equal happiness, believe me.

Don't like nutty trollop.

She will have less than you op.

I back up AF's post - the first on your thread:

That's all well and good. But you are still too interested and involved in his life, and in his motivations (for what they are worth) Time to move on? You seem rather stuck, love

Your EXP is a dick.

Nutty trollop is just not nice. Or good. Or helpful.

Why bother to out-flank somebody you have had sex with who is now involved with a nutty trollop?

Has she got something you have lost? Has the nutty trollop won the big prize?

AF Thanks for Pm.

Sorry for crap instructions. It's next to small brick under the carriage-light. Gaah

Is your house on rightmove etc? have you asked MN to give your house a make over? Normally pretty good advice over on property..

I haven't sent you a pm, smokin

oh louby I really feel for you -

I have to agree with the having as little contact as possible post, it was so hard and upsetting at first (it was him that just disappeared with his 'new' partner, no contact deets, money for kids, phone number etc 3 months ago) - still know where he works, but not going there!) - it gave me space to heal, so to speak.

He cheated 4 years ago and left, and I stupidly took him back when he came crawling that time, it was the worst mistake of my life, and the worst four years - so please don't go there if he comes begging! Leopards and spots!?

I really hope you (and mamma x) get to move property soon. I'm moving this week and it just feels like a total end to a horrible relationship and a fresh start for me and my boys. I know how important it is and really feel for you both - I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you both!

Oh, and if anyone would have told me 3 weeks ago we would be moving I wouldn't have believed them! Like you I thought I'd be stuck in this house forever, but it does and WILL happen for you!

(my spying informant neighbours won't know what to do with themselves ha!)

Fingers crossed you sell your house pdq

Weird saying you have had a PM when you haven't, Smokin

Thanks oopsadaisy...I do think a new house= a new start. Good luck with your move. Your final part if the 'moving on' chapter.

X

I think smokin might have been on the last night...

AF funny enough, was just thinking the same ha! :)

mamma ah thanks! - It is a great feeling, had so many connections still back to him with this house (he's still talking to the neighbours apparently, who are just the most awful nosey people, he didn't like them when he was here anyway, but found out he was using for info recently) - The abusive control freak will be spitting feathers that we are moving on and doing well (I'd never survive without him was his parting line...) Oooohh I think not, better than ever!! :)

I hope you get to move soon!

Thank you all! I woke up this morning in a much better frame of mind. I'm putting him out of my thoughts and going to try and enjoy the summer here as best I can.

louby good good! Things will get better for you I promise, try to think to the future and positive stuff and I'm sure you will have a wonderful summer! Your house will sell, soon I hope :)

yay !

Just been over to Property - very helpful, loads of suggestions, looked at my house and I'm kicking my estate agents up the backside and getting new photo's done and things re-jigged!

Feel better doing something other than waiting.....!

louby - that's great news good for you!!

It took me 3 months of sitting on my arse fretting over how bad my life was (and a total week of meltdown) before I realised that no-one was going to come and 'save' me so to speak - and I had to get my life in check!

The doing something (and everything!), keeping busy, trying new things, speaking and making an effort with the mums at school, hunting everywhere for a new home, paid off ten fold! Since then, it's positive attitudes only in this house, negatives are just missions to make better! (ie Yes we're skint, but I can now do a million and one budget meals with a chicken....etc haha :) )

Keep it up lovely, I'm rooting for you here! :)

Thanks for your kind words. New photo's being taken on Friday, spruced up a few rooms and re-jigged a few things!

Need to make things happen. Aldi is my favourite shop now and I plan, budget & cook to a very strict menu!

Many people are worse off than me! The only way is up surely!

Indeed