It's Father's Day soon.

[Evilwater]

Groan.......... Come and share your tells of woe.

Here's mine
Ex is a emotional abuser, and a massive gas lighter. We split in October and he sees my son 4 hours a week and has only wanted see his son on the Easter weekend. That's it. So he wants to see his son at the end of June month, that's fine. Recently he has been changing the days which he sees his son, for the past two weeks. I think it's because I had to swap some days, because of my work but I told him a month in advance and in one go.

But this morning as I'm picking my son up, now he wants to see his son on Father's Day. But I have a full day booked with my dad. I told him so, and he said that "he should spend the day with him, as it's Father's Day. So I want next year (meaning he wants to spend the whole day with his son on Father's Day)

So should I try and fit some time in for my son on Father's Day?

No do what makes you and your son happy

Well sadly my DD (who is much older than your DS I suspect) has forgotten or ignored every birthday and father's day since he fucked off to the far side…..

Sad for her that this is what it's come to. Do what you feel is right for you and your son. Your ex doesn't have entitlement because he thinks he does. He is arguing for the sake of it I think. Putting your son in the middle of you because he can - if you let him. Having said that, you will need to negotiate something which meets your DS's need for some kind of relationship with his DF. It might stick in your throat for a while but the good news is he's not in your life any more.

My Ex left me for a work colleague on a month long business trip a few weeks ago. My DS is still devastated, his dad had booked and paid for our holidays and was banging on about our future house and life after we had reconciled due to his EA. I forced a confession out of him a day after we had all sat on a happy family video call that it turns out she (the same woman of EA fame) was sat in the other room listening to!!

My father died a week later.

Father's Day can fuck right off this year.

Sorry any lovely dad's out there - I am indulging in a sulk!

Sorry OP, let your son choose what he wants this year, but be aware the ex may want him next year.

Have a great day with your dad xxx

I have been NC with my dad for 15 years. My (adult) son's bio-dad never bothered to meet our son. Fathers Day means nothing to us.

Personally, I think your Dc should spend the day with their dad and you with yours

Not if he's a cunt that can't be arsed with them King.

i think it requires an exceptional reason for kids not to spend fathers day with their dads or mothers day with their mums, (same goes for birthdays too) I don't believe the fact your ex is a twat is a good enough reason.

I'm afraid I agree. Your ds should be able to spend Father's Day with his dad, even if he is a prat. I always have to hand my dc over to my ex for fathers day on my birthday weekend. Although to be fair he is a good dad

Father's Day's a load of commercialised rubbish anyway. I don't get Mother's Day even, which at least has a long religious history behind it, but Father's Day is a recent construct (by card companies?) and as such is totally ignorable. That may make me officially a miserable old moo, but it's true none the less. Traditions are what you choose to make them.

Your Ex has unfortunately left it a bit late to start demanding to get in on the FD act, since you have plans in place, but it seems fair enough to promise him the full day next year. Perhaps by then he'll have settled down a bit and be ready to co-parent properly.

What is ex likely to do next Mothering Sunday? If you stick to your plans this year he may bide his time and be difficult about Mother's Day.