I am a divorced lady (2010) with two sons and met my current boyfriend in 2012. My boyfriend a lot younger than me. Tonight is our 2 year anniversary, and I'm lying on the sofa, alone, wondering what has happened to us. He moved into my home a year ago and has brought nothing to the home. He cleans up and helps out now and then, but seems to becoming lazy. We fight allthe time about ridiculous things, and when we do he comes out with the most horrible, horrible things, so horrible I end up becoming physically violent, which I have never been before. He is constantly on my back about how to raise my sons, that I'm not hard on them and how easy they have it, when they are with us, he always has something negative to say. It seems like a massive mind game to me, but then he turns around, when I mention it, and says 'I don't play games'. I have broken up with him quite a few times and told him I feel likevim being used, but he wont leave, but he WILL get nastier and nastier and less loving. Lately the sex life has gone downhill whereas it used to be amazing. He is now always tired. I've brought it up with him and he says, that's how he felt previously and I say, 'but we were having sex at least once a day' so how was it a problem? He was bringing up a problem when it wasn't a problem. Now there is an actual problem, he's just blowing me off. The whole relationship seems to be getting more and more depressant, and I feel like his mother now. Nowadays, he doesn't like to kiss in public. We used to be kissing all the time, had a loving, warm relationship and now it just never happens. I try to snuggle up to him and get fobbed off. I feel like an idiot. Then there's the mind games, when I break up with him he says You will find someone else straight away, that I don't care about him, I only care about myself, I just want him to provide a home for my kids, which is ironic considering I am providing a home for him.....ultimately it's just a control tool. He went through a stage of being massively jealous and I couldn't go out with my girlfriend's or him without being accused of cheating, but now he's stopped that but it seems like it's a juxtaposition, where if he's not going to give me the jealous-boyfriend attention, he won't give me any. I had massive issues with my ex husband, and went through years of abuse and now it seems to be happening all over again. I've always seemed to have been able to walk away from a bad relationship, but this time I'm finding it very hard, because my heart is so involved in him. He brings up some hurtful things, the other day calling me a common bitch, no wonder my marriage didn't work out and that my friends don't want me around their house because my kids are so badly behaved??? What a thing to say. Afterwards he says he didn't mean it. I feel emotionally traumatised, so much so I can't think straight, like I need to see a psychologist. I'm considering packing stuff tomorrow and staying in a hotel, and completely cutting him off. I've left before, told him to leave, to get out, I hate him and I think it's scarred him and now I feel scarred. I think I am partly to blame for sure, I'm a bit of my own worst enemy. But I love him. He's so nice, and loving, and charming when he's nice. I feel right back where I started, living with a man who's mood swings dictate my happiness and I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with the fact it's happened again. I think I'm being used, I think slowly I'm being derogated. I can't see the relationship improving unless he chills out and stops being a total dick all the time. There's also the promise of commitment which has never eventuated. He's been back to England each Christmas we've been together and last time, when he was there, he even mentioned that he was going to bring back his grandma's ring. Of course, I was beside myself with excitement, but wo is me, no ring returneth. So weird. Also, he's doesnt like any of my friends or family and never wants to go out with them to any dos, nights out, functions or parties. What the hell is going on????