I have been married 15 years with 2 kids. I had a very good job. It was great life. I gave up work after 2nd child, so he became the bread winner. He worked very long hours (too long, which I did appreciate). I used to have a glass of wine on the day that there was no kids activities and I did not have to drive anywhere the next day. Then DH hours got longer and you could see he was not coping. He had 3 mobiles, which he said one was for work and others him, laptop, (which he took out of my sight) and would always go to bed, Always moaning he was tired, not eating properly and always complaining the minute he walked in the door. We never saw him (even when here) His personality got worse, but to the outside world he was lovely as he always wanted to please others and they think hes the greatest family man ever, little did they know what he was like in doors. I then started to have a glass of wine maybe 2 times a week, as the kids activities got less. But after a while he was coming in saying "your an alcoholic". This would just cause a row. Which I did not want infront of the kids. We all tried to say im not but he was not having it. He was working too many hours, not enough balance in life and even tried to get him to do a health check. I was cooking him a very healthy dinner but he did not always want. But he did not mind eating loads form the reduced section from supermarkets. Hes saying I need help with drink and that hurts,frustrating and dont know how to make him see thats it only him that has the issue. Someone did say has he got an alcoholic in the family YES. Apparently this can have implications. When I tried to talk to him about feelings he says its my problem if I cant control my feelings. Hes never been kissy huggy. I dont go out with friends anymore, my only treat is a glass of wine now and again. His personality has change so much that last year he was grooming himself, confidence through the roof. Looking at my mate (very obviously) chatting to woman whilst walking the dog. It is not him anymore. He has done some really stupid things that emotional Im too scared to divorce him over as you never know what hes going to do next. How do you sort relationship when someone emotionally bullies you. I feel he was diverting the attention of wine on me so that it was not on him. Is he cheating?