I don't think I've ever been loved.

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Sorry if this sounds a bit self pitying but I don't think I've ever been truly loved by a man. I had one man who professed to adore me but he was a control freak and I don't think he knows what love is.
I'm not sure I'll find love either as I haven't had much luck so far. This really depresses me. :-(

That is so sad. But here's a positive story: my mom felt that way at 56, and she found love at 57!

That's lovely but I'd rather not wait much longer!

I guess it sucks especially because there are a few men who I have loved who are happily with other girls. Pants!

I hope you find love. What are you doing to try to meet a loving guy?

At the moment I'm taking a break after the latest idiot. I bumped into a guy I had a fling with down the pub last night. I have no intention of getting with him but when I said a friendly hello he brushed me off.
I was upset because for some reason, once a man has had his penis inside you they are incapable of behaving in a normal, friendly fashion and start panicking that you want to get hitched!
I think part of the problem is that I'm not a huge fan of men and/ or the dating thing ATM but I don't want to be a man hater and I'd like to think that there are some gooduns out there who I fancy!

So far some of my shocker exes have included:
Someone who controlled what I ate and gave me an eating disorder.
The 40 year old caner..
The gambler.
The one who couldn't handle it when my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer and then came crawling back, hoping for a shag when she died.
I could go on but it's not normal is it? And I have turned down a few lovely men who adore me because I wasn't feeling the chemistry. :-( maybe chemistry is overrated!

I think slow burners last longer.

Do you tend to go for lust?

I have to go to bed now as up early for work. Be back tomorrow.

Oh and Dp is fantastic. I have had some idiots too. You do begin to wonder if there are any good ones out there? But there are.

No tea. Just a song. :)

Never mind romantic/sexual love for the moment - do you feel that you were loved by your parents when you were a kid, and do you think your parents love you now? Do you have any close friends or other relatives who you love and who you believe love you?

Romantic/sexual love is actually the least important kind. But if you grew up feeling that no one really cared about you, that can lead to a person getting both too obessed with romantic love and too insecure to detect when someone who appears to be offering love is atually offering to exploit and hurt you.

If I were you, I would stay away from chaps for a good while.

I think you should focus on yourself and really enjoy life as a singleton and calling the shots on every aspect of your life.

When you meet someone that makes you fizz, then you can really consider if they are worthy of your attention and time.

To say you've never been loved is a tricky statement. Love means different things to different people. So get in a position where you are strong enough to decide what is good enough for you without feeling like a victim and being depressed.

sadly, genuine deep love is not such a common thing (between people who are originally strangers, I mean). Easy to find attraction/lust and the 'in love' relationships that fizzle out after a year or two at most. How many people (and specifically even the nice, attractive women) are lucky enough to find a partner who really loves them as a person and enduring enough to withstand changes in attraction/changing appearance/ups and downs. Obviously there are such couples, but I personally know very, very few.
Having said that, I'm not dissing romantic love that doesn't last long - it's still something worthwhile.

Some great ppints here.
Sgb you are right that other types of love are far more important and enduring. Dd loves me. Dad loves me. My mates love me and so does my cat!