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Never thought it would happen but things are looking up!!

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oopsadaisyme · 08/06/2014 10:23

After a really tough start to the year, things are actually looking up!

My OH walked out (after cheating for a year I found out), took everything we had, we were stuck in a house we couldn't afford, in an area 400 miles away from everyone I knew and had no real friends here, just so much I felt so awful and stuck in a hole I thought we would never get out of - my ex hasn't seen the kids for months (not actually a bad thing, he's not particularly missed), or paid one penny (CMS are useless btw, pay and collect lol, they saying they can't)

Anyway, we are moving next week, to a much more affordable house closer to both my ds's schools, I managed to scrape enough together to get my son on his residential school trip next week, I've got a possible job offer starting September when ds2 starts school, we have made some brilliant new friends, and even been on a couple of dates!

I wanted to post on here because 6 months ago I never, ever would have thought things would be going so well for us - After being in such a controlling relationship I actually thought I couldn't do anything on my own - but me and my boys are actually stronger together now than I think we have ever been, and I've found out I am actually brilliant at doing things on my own, and really enjoying it (without the shit who constantly told me I couldn't do things) !!

Anyway, thanks Mumsnetters for some helpful advice at the start of the year, onwards and upwards! x

(re-posted from 'chat' x)

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FelineLou · 08/06/2014 12:52

I just want to say "Well done". I hope your post helps others who are not so far along the journey to Freedom.
Have a wonderful life or at least a mostly happy one.
(((OP)))

BeCool · 08/06/2014 13:51

fantastic news to hear you are doing so well and have made amazing progress in just 6 months.
You must feel like a new family entirely - brilliant!

oopsadaisyme · 08/06/2014 14:37

ah thanks x

Someone once posted back to me on here that I would 'weather the storm and hang in there' - I remember thinking at the time 'yeah, right' - but that really stuck with me for some reason - so a massive thanks to her (I can't remember who it was unfortunately)

It is actually unbelievable to me now that I was ever in a relationship with him, and how bad things were -

For the first time in I don't know how long we are looking forward to things, we have friends around the house (never allowed when he was here, for one reason or another) and just enjoying life!

All good good good!!! :)

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akaWisey · 08/06/2014 19:44

If it's feeling better now, I can promise you in another 6 months, a year, two……you're going to be MAGNIFICENT Grin

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 08/06/2014 19:48

Wow, can't believe how much you've achieved in 6 months! Well done you Grin

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louby44 · 08/06/2014 20:09

Can you send some of your luck over to me please. My house won't sell and I'm stuck in limbo worrying every month if my exP is going to pay his half towards the mortgage.

I'm watching every penny and until I can sell and buy my own house I don't think I will ever move on completely until I'm out of here.

oopsadaisyme · 09/06/2014 13:35

louby I don't think it's luck, but maybe a bit of karma after not having the best few years!!

(Maybe my ex is somewhere having a bad time. I'm not bitter, but can't say it wouldn't make me smile slighty!)

I hope you sort your house soon louby, I have to agree about the 'moving on by moving home', I couldn't afford to stay where I was either and had not one penny from my ex in months, for kids, house anything, so understand how stressful the financial worries are.

It is a great feeling to be making a fresh start and I really hope it happens for you soon x :)

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