Having split with DH I'm going through a massive change in the way I think about relationships in general and what I want from them more long term. DH was a sort of arranged marriage and so we got married knowing very little about each other and had a typically unbalanced male/ female partnership as you'd expect from that culture (though he is lovely man and not in the least abusive).
So, all of these things that I've viewed as 'normal' from looking at family member's marriages and my own failed marriage I'm now beginning to question. Mumsnet is helping a lot! I read through a lot of the relationship threads and it's very definitely helping to change in my own mind what a good relationship balance is instead of relying on what I have been told and conditioned to think.
Anyway, I'm waffling! I was never really bothered if my (now exDH) was to watch porn. But when I read the threads on here know a lot of you would class watching porn (even sporadically) as a deal breaker. I know you must have very good reasons so would you mind sharing them with me? I don't mean the constant, obsessive porn watching that takes over from a healthy sex life within a relationship (that would likely be a deal breaker for anyone) but occasional usage.