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quite personal re sex

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whynowblowwind · 07/06/2014 12:47

Has anybody else never orgasmed with a partner?

This is something I have only ever been able to do alone, I never thought of it as being strange but I was thinking last night about it for some reason.

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brokenhearted55a · 07/06/2014 13:46

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Canihaveonemoreslice · 07/06/2014 14:48

I never do and never have.

There was a thread recently about the same thing. Have a search for it.

IrnBruTheNoo · 07/06/2014 15:22

I orgasm during intercourse nine times out of ten. It's not the be all and end all, there are other ways to orgasm other than through intercourse.

crispyporkbelly · 07/06/2014 15:28

Do you mean without any other stimulation? Just PIV? Then no

beccajoh · 07/06/2014 15:50

I don't through intercourse alone but do in other ways.

Joysmum · 07/06/2014 15:56

Not through POV. Never really did with any other partner before my DH, but then we didn't progress to penetrative sex for over a month so were able to learn a lot before that.

Personally, I like sex toys, I know many don't though.

The other thing we like to do is evenings where one partner is being attended to, it's great to keep in touch with skills and not to slip into taking each other for granted or selfish loving.

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whynowblowwind · 07/06/2014 16:56

I have to use a toy Blush I have never orgasmed through PIV sex but never with a partner doing anything else either - it just doesn't happen through touch.

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spritesoright · 07/06/2014 19:02

Not through just intercourse but can manage it with some manual assistance. I recommend a book called "For Yourself" can't remember the author but it's about achieving female orgasm and I found it a total revelation in my 20s.

TalisaMaegyr · 07/06/2014 19:05

I've only ever had an orgasm from piv sex once.

I do have lots of orgasms with my partner, but they're always manually assisted by me or my trusty bullet Wink

My DP is the only partner I've ever had that I've orgasmed regularly with, we didn't get together until I was 40.

Lweji · 07/06/2014 19:07

Another one that does orgasm pretty much every time, but not PIV.
If relevant to you, it helps to have a fantasy going in my head, otherwise my brain wouldn't concentrate enough for an orgasm with a partner.

Sparrowlegs248 · 07/06/2014 20:50

I can during sex in the missionary position, not every time by any means, and I am sure its more to do with clitoral 'rubbing' than PIV. Other times if dh is behind, or me on top, I 'help myself along'!

So in a nutshell, I really need clitoral stimulation. I don't think it would ever happen without.

StirredNotShaken · 07/06/2014 21:32

Thank God for this thread! I was starting to panic Blush. I have a reasonably new partner and the sex is gorgeous as we don;t see one another very often owing to distance and commitments - I have not had one orgasm with him thought the thought of being with him is enough to turn me on so much! I love what we do together but I always feel that I am taking too long so I either fake it (I know I shouldn't) or just give up. What is PIV?

StirredNotShaken · 07/06/2014 21:35

Funnily enough I have a great g-spot response and have orgasmed during penetrative sex through this and not via clitoral stimulation

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whynowblowwind · 07/06/2014 21:35

I think it stands for "penis in vagina" :)

I definitely need a lot of clitoral stimulation, I'm just worried that only vibrators do anything! As I can't make myself orgasm alone and neither can DH.

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prawnypoos · 07/06/2014 21:35

I generally do with my DP. Id say 9 times out of 10 but everyone is different

StirredNotShaken · 07/06/2014 21:38

whynotblowwind ah yes, that'll be it! I can orgasm on my own with a toy or by myself and I have had partners with whom I can climax but I always feel like I am taking too long!

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout · 07/06/2014 21:55

I more or less orgasm every time through P.I.V and during foreplay as well. We've been together for just over a year and I didn't have my first orgasm (with him) until the August through P.I.V. It was more than worth the wait. However the last time I orgasmed through P.I.V was during a O.N.S when I was 21.
I'm the first to admit I'm not very advetures though. I've only ever had sex in the missionary position (why break what isn't fixed) and I am an anal virgin (and I intend to stay one), xxx

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whynowblowwind · 07/06/2014 22:10

I have never done the a's and never would, I really am not interested at all.

I don't orgasm easily, though, I find it hard to orgasm twice within say a 12 hour period, although it has been known it isn't easy.

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StirredNotShaken · 07/06/2014 22:25

it is such a shame when it becomes a chore, or something that is hard work to achieve! Fantastic when it suddenly creeps up on you when you weren't bargaining on having one though Smile

crispyporkbelly · 07/06/2014 22:32

What's the point in faking? Vicious cycle if you ask me

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whynowblowwind · 07/06/2014 23:10

I don't think anyone's said they fake it? I enjoy sex sometimes but I don't need to orgasm in order to do so.

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getthefeckouttahere · 08/06/2014 00:23

errrr, stirred not shaken did.

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