I may want kids my partner doesn't

[SuperFlyHigh]

Age old story.

I was with my partner recently a very intense relationship for 3 months, we broke up over another issue which he has now sorted out.

we met up the other day, he wants us to try again maybe us both move in together.

He already has a 14 year old son from his previous relationship.

Before he said he'd think about having children.

now he's adamant he doesn't want to have children at all. I'm 42.

I've always been in the situation whereby if I was in a good enough relationship I'd have children but I wouldn't deliberately want to be a single mother.

what do I do? stay with him and give it another go or not?

Not, unless you're happy with giving up on the idea of having dc, but you ought to be clear on that before resuming anything.

broken - no he doesn't want me to move in he wants to think about it.

i.e. prospect of us both doing this.

You'll be giving up any chance of becomming a mum and time is running out.
I think you need to move on and see what happens.
The perfect partner for you, who wants a child, may be just around the corner.
But you'll never know if you don't try.

I think you're letting your age dictate the pace and cloud your judgement. Despite things being intense for 3 months you can't possibly know this person. You've already broken up once

Cogito so do I say no to him then? and for this reason?

we do know each other quite well.

You've only known him a few months, you've broken up once already and you seem to have very different needs on a personal level. I can't tell you what to do or not do but if ever there was a square peg/round hole situation going on... doesn't this strike you as it?

I wouldn't normally do this but I know he said if I did get pregnant (accident) he would stick by me (he did this with first partner of his child).

I may find it hard to get pregnant.

we're very compatible chemistry wise and also apart from breaking up, personality wise.

i don't know whether to call it quits now.

I think.. if you have to ask.. then you shouldn't be with him.

By committing this relationship, you are effectively saying you won't have children.

Obviously, if you don't continue this relationship, you may still never find someone to have children with. Also, you don't currently know whether you, or a potential partner would be able to have children.

So your options are be with him and have no practically chance of children, or not be with him, in which case all bets are off as you would then have no information at all on your chances of having children.

You've just got to decide to go for it, or not, and hope it all turns out.

Although, as others have said, you broke up at three months, in order to resolve another issue. Is this the way this relationship will be? You have to split up to finally come to agreement over every issue? Is that what you want? For the rest of your life?