Possible online relationship - how to record?

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Hi

A close friend of mine is going through a difficult time. She thinks her DH might be having an online relationship with someone. She was wondering if there's some sort of software she can install that can record what's going on? He is quite tech savvy and smart, so would have to be something discreet.

Any ideas?

hmmnn? Friend? Daughter? Discreet?

Now if i was a cynical type i'd think this was posted by someone who wants to spy on their other half.

I'm sure there's lots of things you can do.
You can gps their phone or car etc.

Hidden cameras / video cameras are tiny and cheap enough nowadays.

Get, well she does want to spy on her other half. Don't really understand your message.

Is there something she can place on the computer to record the screen so it's there as evidence? He will probably deny all.

If she suspects her DH of infidelity she should not feel that she has to have proof positive before confronting. She must have reasons for mistrusting him and that's all she needs. Even if he denies everything and covers his tracks, if they've been together long enough, she will know if he's lying. FWIW I have had big success in the past by phrasing it 'I know what you're up to'.... followed by 'never mind how I know'.... because it implies that you have more information than you really do. :)

No need to play detective. Act on the mistrust, have the courage of convictions, and put the onus on the other party to prove their innocence, not the other way around.

She does need evidence. He has threatened to fight for full custody of their child (on grounds of her depression) and not give her a share of their house.

google "PK lite". Free keylogger.

thats for a MAC though. Try doing a search for free key loggers.

He can threaten all he likes but he's talking bullshit. Your friend should be consulting a solicitor rather than wasting her time trying to catch him out. Depression, assuming it's under control and treated, is not a valid reason to remove children from their mother and, if she's a wife, she has certain rights to marital assets including the family home.

It sounds like she should be talking to Women's Aid. He's abusive, and her depression will probably lift once she gets rid of him.

I didn't have enough evidence to be sure what was going on for a long time, and my husband was very adept at making me feel bad about my suspicions, making it seem as if I was nasty by suggesting that he might be falling for his colleague even when they had been having a sordid affair for a year (as I found out later). With his encouragement, I felt like a nasty cow for mistrusting him, as well as feeling awful because he was giving me the cold shoulder.

After I read his dirty emails, at first I acted as if I had only spoken to his mistress's husband. He told me that the husband had his own agenda, and had told me a pack of lies. If I hadn't known that it was all true I'd still have been deceived by the way he claimed he simply wouldn't do any of the things I was saying, and how shocked he was that I thought that of him. I'm sure if I'd asked him to prove his innocence he would have made out that I was emotionally abusing him, as he did throughout the affair.

I haven't any experience with the technique, but I believe it's called tracking keystrokes. www.ehow.com/how_6889891_track-keystrokes.html

Has he been unfaithful or done something like this before?