Dh and I have had a rough patch over the last few years. Six weeks ago DH lost his job and that strain of it has in my eyes destroyed what was left of our relationship . I would like to leave but I feel like I would be kicking him when he is down. He is obviously very depressed about the job situation should I hang on untill fingers crossed he gets another job or do it now. This is further complicated as There was an opportunity recently which came up which meant he would have been going overseas to work . I had no intention of going with him and DH was quite happy with this as our DC are at cruicial years in their education and cant be moved for the next two years. however it looks like it might have fallen through as his future boss was uncomfortable with splitting the family . the thing is that is exactly what I wanted , an easy way out . Now I feel I am also ruining his job opportunities by staying together what would you do? I did jokingly say that he should tell the boss we were seperating and DH went mad so he obviously has no idea how I really feel.I have no idea why not as the relationship has been flatlining for years. I think he must have just normalised how bad our relationship is and can't see it.