Messed up situation *trigger*

[Helpplease0]

I had a ridiculously bad day yesterday that feels like a nightmare.
I had recently broken up with a new partner and my ex dp (not the one I had just broken up with) had come over to visit dc.

I trusted my ex completely and he's been like a friend to me for quite a while now. When we were together it didnt work because I found out he was planning to cheat. He was never physically abusive to me.

He knew I was upset about this breakup I was going through and comforted me. We ended up getting closer than I was intending but my heads been all over the place recently and I didnt stop him from touching me or rubbing my back.

Later on he ended up trying to have sex with me quite suddenly. I told him no 3 or 4 times and got up but he did it anyway and left, it was all very quick. He text me like nothing happened but I told him 'I never want this to happen again, you should never have done that' and hes given me the answers of 'I didnt think you were serious, you know the thought of one sided sex makes me sick, you should have bee more assertive, I got carried away.'

I dont know what to do. I've not got many friends, only 2 people know - My best friend and the guy I just ended things with, I've refused to tell him who did it though and hes supportive but says I should never contact him or see him again, which isnt possible. :-(

I still have to see this guy every week and I feel sick. Ive been assaulted in the past, twice. I'm so confused and my heads all over the place. I keep replaying it in my head and thinking 'I should have done more'. What do I do?

What a prize asshole doing this whilst you are already vulnerable.

I'd suggest he takes the kids out (with or without you - whichever you'd prefer).

If he has to come inside he stays downstairs and only visits when the children are up.so sorry that this happened to you.

I'm so sorry and sure you'll get lots of useful and supportive answers. You know this was rape. He admits it in his text if he says he got carried away.

How about calling Rape Crisis. They can support you with contacting the Police if you chose to. I hope you will chose to. He's a rapist and should be punished.

Take care. ((()))

Oh, and its not you fault!!!

I agree with FabULouse.. take your evidence to the police. You are vulnerable and he took advantage of this. It is rape and yes not your fault at all. He is disgusting x

Oh yes and if you would like to take it further but not sure what will happen Rape Crisis can explain what happens from the initial report to the end result.

I echo keeping the texts either way though in case you need them in future.

Rapists often choose their moment when a woman is feeling vulnerable. You poor girl, what a shit he is.

If you feel up to reporting it, that would be good: he deserves punishment and at the very least the fright and embarrassment of having the police visit him. You might also want to go for supervised contact with the DC in future so he can't do anything like this again.

This sounds like rape to me. Have courage and report - certainly contact Rape Crisis for advice. "I told him no 3 or 4 times " is 'no' in anyone's language.

How are you feeling now?

Feel free to PM me at any time x

Report him to the police. Seriously.